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Whenever my parents and I get together at my sister's house for parties & holiday gatherings, my MO is usually to arrive before the meal begins, stay for an hour or two, and then announce my departure. While everyone involved is cool with this routine, I've done it mainly because the solitude allows me to retool.

However, I fear that my nephew in later years may come to resent me for bailing out in the party/lunch as I am now, as much as we both appreciate each other.

What do you guys think?

Why do you think he will resent you?

Why does it matter? Is your nephew going to be the one to choose which nursing home you die in?

NYAspie,
You've never answered your post. I hope when I asked my question I did not sound hostile, adversarial, or condescending. I was trying to figure out why you think he might become resentful. Like, do you think he depends on you being there because he sees you as a role-model or admires you or is better there if you are there too?

Sorry it's taken me a very long time to answer; as much as I feel like a role model to him, he's gotten that I am who I am. He, at his young age, has understood. I know that several years down the road there might be a time where he might take offense to this behavior on my end. BTW, he doesn't have AS, at least as far as anyone in the family knows.