Straight teen boys but homoerotic?

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Don't get me wrong, this is a good thing, but all I hear on tumblr is about how straight teen boys are afraid of acting gay or seeming gay, but... Not really in my school...

I mean, my main friends are all guys, and they say "I love you, man" to each other and joke about having sex with each other. Once they went around poking each other's nipples? My brother once told me he and two of our friends had threesomes, but he was joking. They also say, "If I was gay, I'd bang you" to each other.

And this doesn't change for guys who like guys? They sit on gay guys' laps and wrestle/cuddle with guys who like guys. They share beds with each other and guys who like guys.

I went to homecoming yesterday, where they were all dancing provocatively around each other... I don't get it. Are the tumblrites just being idiots again? All my straight male friends seem chill with gayness, but they are also very homoerotic.

Sometimes, guys go through a stage where they might be "straight," yet do sorts of sexual things with other guys. Mutual masturbation is said to be very common with pubescent guys. Sometimes, it's because a girl is not "available" or a guy is too scared to do sexual things with a person of the opposite sex. It's partially a development thing.

Male prisoners do the same things because there's no woman available for them. Most would prefer women.

Most guys end up straight; a few end up gay. A few end up somewhere in between.

Girls go through the same sort of phase sometimes, for similar reasons. Think about "slumber parties." Sometimes, girls explore each other during slumber parties. It doesn't mean they'll wind up gay.

Women prisoners do the same thing as male prisoners because of the unavailability of men

exploring their sexuality, "bromance", "close" friends. there is all manner of reasons to act homoerotic for straight males.

also:

Homoerotic attraction happens to every man, and it's manipulated BIG TIME for all kinds of advertising.

Homoerotic attractions DO NOT = sexual attraction. Guys admire/envy other men who have "attributes" they feel are lacking within themselves, and it's perfectly normal.

The problem with "acting gay" is that kids grow up liking their own gender...then they normally develop opposite-sex attractions. This DOES NOT happen at the same age for everyone. So, a guy who feels little or nothing towards girls might be afraid that "acting gay" will start something he'd rather not have in his life. Guys who are more comfortable and secure in their sexual identity don't let it phase them.

This is why I'm a big opponent to "sexual experimentation" at young ages. There are so many conflicting emotions and changes going on that you hardly know yourself. Experimentation only muddies the waters.

Sexual experimentation is an inevitable part of growing up.

I'm not sure how it manifests today.

But experimentation, in my time, was an inevitable experience.

Think: the games of "Spin the Bottle" and "Seven Minutes in Heaven." As well as "strip poker."

Beyond these sorts of games at parties, I know of guys who used to go into bathrooms and mutually masturbate each other. I never did that (I wasn't popular enough--and I'm glad for that).

I know of girls who used to play at romance with each other.

When I was nine years old, I used to play house with this girl....and we used to imitate adult sexual behaviors.

That's been my experience. Except I've never been in prison.

Kids do things behind their parents' back. It might cause problems--but lots of it really is a part of growing up.

OP, I've noticed it too, but most teen males are just friends. They have a strong 'brotherly love' and homo-erotic connection, this is true.

I've seen it myself with other males at my age at school and that. Some have seen their male friends d*ck, they hug their male friends, some aren't afraid to use certain compliments like 'sexy' 'hot' 'cute <3' all that kind of feminine stuff you'd expect a complimenting female to say. Strong bromances.

I always found it unusual myself. I mean, I understand a brotherly connection and I can be a bit of a 'bro' myself with my friends, but I'm nowhere near that level.

And, ironically, I'm actually Bisexual as well.

I've never experienced a "bromance." It's just not my thing. I only want a woman to say romantic things to me.

I've never understood 'bromances'.

I understand a sense of brotherhood and brotherly love and, for people with a rough lifestyle or from an oppressed nation, 'blood brothers', but bromance is just strange to me.

But, I guess it's really not a bad thing. Maybe straight males are becoming more secure with themselves and sexuality, and not afraid to express a bit of brotherly love and not care whether it be mistaken as homosexual or not.

Just recently I saw two male friends at my school hug. I was just walking past and they are in the popular crowd too.

And they were joking around while hugging as well. I don't know, it was a pleasant site. Seeing that, no judgement among any of the friends, acceptance, and a clear sense of comfortability with each other and their friends.

Two days ago, my friends were with me in lunch, and one said to the other, "Is that an apple in your pocket or are you just happy to see me?"

I don't get it. (Also, I said, "I never got that. Is your d*** like, on your thigh?" and they got embarrassed).