Did I miss a chance to make a new friend/potential gf?

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I sometimes go to a bar called The Bit Bar which is about 20-30 minutes from where I live. I don't drink but I go there because they have arcade games. I'll talk to people there but I haven't made any new friends yet. I am worried I blew a chance to make a new friend and possibly a potential girlfriend. It was a pretty looking girl wearing glasses and the girlfriend I dream of being with has those traits but instead of going up and talking to her while she sat at the bar, my shyness kicked in and made me leave. I know the music was loud in the place and I would be considered a stranger to the girl but I wonder if I should've broken out of my shell and took a chance talking to her.

you could also think of it as you dodged a bullet in terms of avoiding an awkward situation. maybe if the stressor of the loud music were absent it would have been more of a slam dunk.

Next time have a few more drinks to get over your shyness, and if you fail when talking to her then you can just blame feeling foolish the next day on your drunkness Actually you probably don't want to listen to me on that. I've only been to a bar a few times and have never dared speak to anyone that I didn't know there. I figure the kind of women I would like to meet wouldn't be in bars anyways, seems to be more of a place for extroverts.

I've fallen guilty of the same thing more times than I care to admit. I think it has something to do with the "potential GF" mentality more than anything else. I'd give you some advice for getting rid of it if I could, but alas, it's one of those things that have to happen spontaneously.

Or you can just enlist the help of alcohol, as described above.