Can't keep my SECRET

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Hi
Let's straight to the point
I haven't been diagnosed before.
But I just want to know if this is normal for ppl in spectrum.

I'm planing on doing on some school
and that I was told to keep it secret
if I don't want to make more competitor

Then I told my friend on the phone
Just to tell that I resign from work
he asked me why?
Then I told him about my plan

Because I didn't know
what I supposed to say

I had to decide
which info i would tell him
but i didnt prepare myself for it

So I told the truth
that I was told I wasnt supposed to do.
I felt guilty

And guilty more
when mom walked in and heard about it
she made a hand to say ' dont tell him'

I felt like I did things wrong
I couldnt cope with it
i felt really guilty

After hung up
She said I shouldnt give much details about my plan

I told her that I didnt know what should i say

She said
you have no intelligence
You said it, you have to take responsible for it on your own

I was guilty more
that i couldnt stand there
i walked to the kitchen
I didnt know how could I cope with this guilty
I shouldnt tell anything to my friend
I shouldnt call him

I don't know
I don't want to be stupid

I graduated from top uni
but I never do well in this kind of thing
NEVER

It always ends like this
Say things that i supposed to keep it secret

I tend to tell every details to ppl
Too much details
like nothing is my secret
then regret and guilty
and felt really bad
these emotion always clench my heart
that i cant stand still
SometIme I even cry
cuz I dont know how to not feel guilty

Is this some trait of ppl in the spectrum?
Or Am I just stupid?

Please be polite but clear
Thanks
Daisy

I'm pretty sure you have that in common with a lot of people. Some of us feel the need to compulsively go into "TMI" mode because anything else feels wrong, dishonest, or just not accurate enough. You are not less intelligent because of it - you are in need of practice, though. Start by asking your friend to honor the confidence - and let him know that this is important to you. Then, start practicing simpler, less informative answers to every day questions. Reasonable people do not expect you to reveal every detail of your life plans.

No matter what happened here, please believe that it is not the end. It's an unfortunate event, but not the end of all hope for your future achievement. Most people who eventually succeed at something have a long past record of humbling mistakes and failures they've had to learn from and then put behind them.