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I have a weird behavior that I do only around people who are close to me. I will get extremely hyper and loud and begin acting really goofy. Some of the things I do include: repeating certain phrases, laughing, imitating the other person, making faces, stare/oversustained eye contact, and roughhousing/spanking. Quite often, the other person will get irritated, mad (sometimes frightened), tell me to stop or go away, but I continue. It is really hard to stop; I usually don't stop until I exhaust myself. What is this called, apart from bothering people? Do other people do this too?

Sometimes, especially with my girlfriend (who is really supportive), this can lead to fights/arguments. I don't know what I can do to avoid it. It comes across as me just being an a-hole trying to get a rise out of someone, but I'm not.

Is this possibly me craving some kind of sensory input?

Could be a coping strategy for anxiety, controlling the situation or preempting the result.

You probably need to reign it in a bit. Create breaks and boundaries.

Try thinking the funny thing in your head, that will make you smile.

I think that just means that you feel confident around your friends/those close to you so you can act how you want and have fun (until someone gets annoyed by it, I guess)

I'm (somewhat) like that - I shout and laugh with my friends a lot, which is unusual for me, because I don't talk to many other people

are you my boyfriend??? haha jk but..
he jumps up and down, repeats the words "tiny" "babiña" "teehee" etc, adds -ses to the end of words, like "chipses" or even "chipseses", does weird dances, and this thing called "salmon upstream" where he slaps between peoples thighs back and forth like is hand is a salmon. he only does most of this around me but he does salmon amongst his friends. I always kinda assumed it had to do with his severe adhd but there are probably other factors as well

My husband and son are both a bit like this. They can be very annoying but also extremely funny.

I think it happens when you are really comfortable around people and open up. But you have to learn when you are being "too much." If the other person feels comfortable enough to tell you to stop, and you listen when they do so, I think you are alright.

Some days I can tolerate the annoyances more than others, depending on how much stimulation I've had throughout the day, or depending on my mood/how I'm feeling/time of the month, etc. They understand this and act accordingly.

It is also important to remember that *everyone* has their quirks. I play with things a lot and tend to tap my cup on the table when I'm talking, things like that. This can drive my husband batty and he has to tell me to stop certain behaviors as well.

If people like you despite your quirks and know that you will respect their limits of toleration and can control your behavior when it becomes too much, you're good. Take your cues from them, though. If someone says a certain behavior is *forever* off-limits or is socially unacceptable, believe that person and stop it for good. If someone even tells you this, it means they like you and care about you deeply (enough to correct you!) It would mean that they like YOU, just not this particular behavior. Take it as an indicator that they want you around, they just want this behavior gone.

I don't know about this "salmon" thing. To me, that sounds like a major invasion of personal space! But I guess if it doesn't bother all his friends, whatever.

I know when I'm around my friends I can be a little more silly and hyper than usual, but I think maybe you aren't recognizing the limit for what is appropriate in the situation. Like maybe it starts out playful, but it keeps going and people get annoyed by it? maybe just look for signs others give you that mean you should stop acting that way.

I used to be like that when I was a kid. I don't anymore. There isn't anyone I am close enough to to risk being my true self around (showing my weird silly side).

Maybe you do this because you're comfortable around these certain people.

I do not really have many close friends, but I do this a lot around my family. I have been doing this since I was a child and my parents or sister tell me to calm down or lower my voice.