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nerdygirl
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24 Dec 2015, 10:14 am

This blog post I found makes so much sense to me in terms of why I connect with so few people and why I am so hesitant to move from "acquaintance" to "real friend."

I have many, many acquaintances with whom I am friendly and I get along fine in social gatherings that are not excessively long. But real friends? Those are few and far between, and hard to come by.

I think I'm going to have to find a copy of the book she mentions, Safety Skills for Asperger Women.

http://www.mindretrofit.com/2013/06/25/ ... -thoughts/



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08 Jan 2016, 10:37 am

I'm always cautious around people and give my trust sparingly.


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08 Jan 2016, 1:49 pm

nerdygirl wrote:
http://www.mindretrofit.com/2013/06/25/understanding-my-perseverating-thoughts/


Thank you for posting this. I really related to this part...

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They repeatedly connected with me and then, all the sudden they would be gone. Then, they would show up again. Then, gone. Then, back. To them they did not see it that way. For me, when I was communicating with them I was giving them my everything. I poured my soul into them like tiny threads linking my inner parts to theirs thinking that they were doing the same. I discovered that was not the case. (I would desperately try to reattach each severed thread when they came back, but the more it happened the more I would cut them and tie knots so they could never come back again. It hurt too much and it was too confusing.)