How to talk to someone again, after years of no interaction?

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I met this girl online back in 2009, and we became pretty good friends. We would go on Skype often and just make each other laugh. She also lived just an hour away from me and we both wanted to meet in person some time but it never happened. One time she told me how much she really likes me, I don't remember how I responded but I know I didn't tell her I liked her too. Fast forward to around the end of 2011, we are still talking often but one day I don't know if she was mad or what, but she got all mad at me for making a joke and deleted me off of everything. I basically just moved on after that but then in February 2013 she sent me a friend request on Facebook. I was pretty surprised she didn't forget about me, but we still haven't said anything to each other since she got mad at me. For a few months now I have considered trying again, but I just don't know how to do it or if I should even just forget about it completely.

I think it's better to leave the past in the past. Besides, someone blocking all contact for several years based on one "joke" doesn't sound like the most stable friend to have. Assuming of course your "joke" was in fact something really sick and mean-spirited, but I'll give you the benefit of the doubt.

Well I don't really feel like she blocked contact, just I think she didn't know what to say after blowing up at me like that. I don't know what to say either, but I just think its really stupid that we let this one thing ruin our friendship. All I really said was an inside joke that we use frequently on each other, but that one time she was just really mad that night I guess, and she released her anger on me.

I'd keep it simple and casual. "Hey, how's it going?"

^ Ditto on what MjrMajorMajor said or you could try "Hey. It's been awhile. How's life?". You know, Chanot, life's too short, so if you value this friendship, then I'd say take the risk and reach out to her, and don't worry so much about it being awkward or whatever.