Hi, EphraimB.
I was just talking to someone about feeling ignored, last night, and I know how you feel. It really hurts.
But I realized two things in my conversation last night. First, there really are people who do talk to me, and I have a tendency to not think about those people when I'm feeling ignored by other people. It's like I don't even consider that those people figure into the equation, because I'm so worried about the people who ignore me. And secondly, there are a lot of people out there who have tons of friends, but those relationships may be very shallow, or unhealthy, and I don't know what they're really like, so maybe my agonizing over it is unjustified.
I wonder if any of that is true for you?
Do you have other people who talk to you elsewhere in the world? Maybe you can try to focus more on those people.
Do you really want to work very hard on forming and maintaining a relationship with someone who is too shallow, or dismissive towards your efforts at relationship building?
I don't think you should trip the new boy, or hit the other boy, anymore. I talk too much all of the time, and I'm not trying to keep anyone away from anyone else when I do it. I just have no idea how much detail is appropriate in conversations. And people get annoyed with me, and stop hanging out with me all of the time because of it. You never know if the boy you hit struggles with how to converse in a normal way, and you don't know if the new boy is just being outwardly polite, but thinking inside of his head, "Why won't this guy shut up? We just met for Pete's sake!"
