Love Languages

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For those of you in romantic relationships

Have you read or been through Love Languages by Gary Chapman?

Yes, I think they are very effective.
I have been wondering how it would help Aspies. I know it has helped me, both in self-awareness and also in knowing *what to do* to communicate to someone else that I care.
I find them effective in all relationships, both romantic and friendship.

We are NT and Aspie.

A friend gave us a valentine gift of going to a seminar.

I'm the Babling Brook and NT wife slow/still stream.

Talk TALK TALK / talk

my wife says I have 2 speeds - fast talking and asleep.

I don't remember babbling brook vs. slow stream from the 5 love languages.
I remember quality time, words of affirmation, touch, gifts, and service.

My top two are quality time and words of affirmation.
My husband's are words of affirmation and touch.

I have found in my friendships that if I don't get enough quality time with someone, words of affirmation make up for it until we do have time.

If someone doesn't give me either, I have a very hard time believing they are my friend.

The water analogy was in the description of differences in couples, in the book and lectures , just not in the chapters you mentioned.

Doing chores(except my wife's fine laundry) even when she says please don't do it is a plus in my wife's book. She is a gift giver, where I'm a word person. (Compliments)

Over the years I've noticed my encouraging words have gone down. They are as needed now as in the beginning.

Remembering to be newly weds helps. In my head I remember more than I actually do.
Resting on my laurels /shutting down doesn't help.