I wonder how people see me?

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I am a sixteen-year old Aspie girl. My peers often express perplexity at my actions. For example, a few days ago I was trying to get my stuff out of a locked room. Not suspecting that there was a janitor in midday, I went to the next classroom to ask my neighbor and some other kids I kind of knew if anyone had a lockpick.

They appeared confused, and one said he "must have left his lockpick at home", (and he was being sarcastic).

I sometimes worry about how I look to people. Sometimes my friends speak to me as though I am much younger than them, at least one guy. I don't really mind, but I just hope they see me as an affectionate oddball as opposed to anything else.

Would you say people view you as an affectionate oddball, a nuisance, or something else?

People think I'm cuckoo, a bit of a klutz, a Wolfman, amiable, social inept....the whole gamut!

Sadly it's a natural thing for NT people to treat autistic people like kids. It's also a natural thing to be worried about how other people look at you. Don't take it personal, the sad truth is that most NT people simply don't know better. The majority of people are ignorant, cruel and/or selfish (not necessarily in that order). It's something you learn to deal with over time.

That is a very dangerous question to ask, since the last time I honestly and in good faith answered a question like that, the mods of that website issued a "Site Warning" against me, and threatened to permanently ban me from that website if I did not change my ways.

I am the kind of person who, when asked "Does this make me look fat?", will answer with "No, you were fat already". I used to, anyway; now I just change the subject.

Jeez. That bad. O_O

I'm hoping I'm more of an Abed, as opposed to a Sheldon.

I don't sense that you are like Sheldon.

My personal rule: when in doubt, expect people to see you in the worst possible way. They sometimes manage to surprise me by finding an even worse way to see me I hadn't anticipated.

Usually if I sit at a empty table in the cafeteria, no one will sit next to me. It's either because I murmur to myself or someone is spreading false rumors about me. But on the other hand, people may think I'm a bit cray-cray. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

If you're unpopular, they instinctively know to keep their distance lest your unpopularity rub off on them.

A lot of people used to see me as a cold calculated arrogant know it all. Now they don't know what to think of me, I'm an eddy in their otherwise logical world. You know how the phrase about making assumptions goes .

That's awesome.
I don't know how people see me, either, and it's pointless to ask, because as Fnord pointed out, it is unlikely they will give you an honest answer even though he will. People will very often not tell you constructively how you appear. They will only tell you negative aspects of your character maliciously or aggressively. Not simply observationally.
I know people often misinterpret me sexually. I never mean anything sexually, and yet people consistently interpret my behaviour as either advertising I want sexual advancement made toward me or as making such myself.
It also makes me uncomfortable for some reason when people interpret my pragmatic or honest behaviour as "nice". It's not nice, it simply is truth, or necessity.
Maybe you might ask your friends how they regard you?

If you're 16, you're still in high school. Everyone there is worried about how everyone else sees them - to the point that if anyone is labeled unpopular, don't sit by them lest someone see you there and think you're unpopular too! And heaven forbid ever saying you actually like that person!

The best part about high school is that it ends.

Within a few years though, you'll probably never see 99% of these people again...for the rest of your life. So, hopefully, you at least see yourself in good light as you're the one you'll be stuck with

It is!! !

I have a strong suspicion that people think I'm odd, not very bright, and very young (if they don't look too closely).

I'm pretty sure people think I'm odd based on reactions to things I say or do, and the fact that no one normal usually will talk to me. And that only creepy guys are interested in me.

It's possible I have strange behaviors that I don't notice, or that I look angry or miserable, since I don't get approached by people (I'm generally ignored) in day to day life.

I assume people think I'm not bright based upon the way they treat me and the manner in which they speak to me, especially doctors and other professionals. Most seem very surprised by my intelligence, knowledge, or abilities. I'm usually underestimated by almost everyone. So my conclusion is that I appear to be stupid and incompetent.

And I get mistaken for a teenager or very young person at times. I look nothing like a teenager, so I think these people either need glasses or are responding to my body language and behavior.

So the point is, I think that it's not uncommon for people with ASD to receive this type of treatment and be seen in a negative light. And I have no idea what to do about it, unfortunately.

I don't know how people see me, and it's something I've wanted to know for a long time. I've begged for people to tell me what they or others thought of me, but they seemed totally incapable of giving me an honest answer, no matter how much I said I wouldn't be offended. I want to know how I'm viewed so I can change anything that is negative. Why can't people understand that and tell me the truth?!

I've had the exact same experience and feel the same way. I have to ask people repeatedly before I get anything out of them. And they don't want to offend so are probably holding things back. It's irritating. I wish I could help other Aspies with this, because I can tell pretty well if someone is doing something wrong as an observer, just not for myself. And I would be honest.