Dropping Hints

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I have this lovely friend who is inconsistent as hell and I can't read her.

If you send her a text, literally one minute she might reply straight away, next time it might be a few hours, next time a few days, next time, no reply at all. She says "Im busy", but she's not too busy to read the text, but she is too busy to put finger to screen and write a reply.

Because the friendship history isn't there I don't know what to do. It's less about her and more about me, whether I should keep going 100mph and trusting her, or to completely back off. She says nothing's wrong, but clearly somethings off if I sense something different and her interaction with me is different.

But Im suffering in the middle not knowing what to do for the best, not knowing what action would make things better or worse.

Im inclined to believe her words that everything is OK, so my behaviour should be the same. But too many people say she's sending hints, she doesn't want to know or something, or she wants you to back off.

Is she? She isn't telling me. I feel like asking flat out, why things are different, or what she wants me to do.

Seems reasonable to me?

I don't have enough information, but I would hold off on asking her anything.

-First of all, are you also female? If so, are you both straight? I'm trying to find out if there's any possible romantic connection here.

-Can you tell us what you texted her that got the various replies? Was it a long text to which she replied "I'm busy"? Was it a long text or a one line observation that got no reply? For example, if I texted a friend, "Did you see that the street will be closed on Friday?" She may not reply to that for a day, or at all. If I texted her, "I'm so mad at my husband right now!" I would expect her to answer right away, within a couple hours at most. If she didn't, I would take that as a sign that we are not really friends.

-Does she have a boyfriend or some other person who is could be texting frequently? Sometimes people lose track of answering other texts because they are preoccupied with another person they're constantly talking to.

I'll have to PM you.