Why do most people never grow up socially?

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I see it all the time. People who I know enjoy my company, but will either make all sorts of excuses NOT to hang out with me, or say they will hang only to never come out or keep saying "lemme get back to you". Then they act "weird" around you.

I am actually a good looking chap too, but the reason these people (women too) dont wanna hang with me is because they are "trendy" people and if they hung with me "what would their friends think" and they would all of a sudden lose "cool points".

Why do most ADULTS still think in terms of "what can I do to make myself look super-cool"?

Then theres the guy who is nice and everything, but whenever you see him he just HAS to be on his cell phone "going over a big business deal" or whatever, and he has to MAKE SURE YOU SEE HIM on his cell phone (and everyone else too).

Why do ADULTS care about stuff like this? Shouldn't this type of stuff have ben left behind in High School? What is it with adult men, who are balding or turning grey, still acting like they are in High School? Its really pathetic in my eyes.

And I hate to say it but alot of women are REALLY BAD with this. They will only hang with the guy "who has the cool job and social status" not because they like him, but because "hes cool and hip". It is so f*cking pathetic. I have known women who I clicked with so well, and I KNOW they like me, but they will gravitate to some uglier guy who they have NOTHING in common with if he has a "cool" job, or has 4300 facebook friends. Why? Because he helps her "status" and I dont.

Its so pathetic, and Im so tired of seing grown ADULTS acting this way. When are people going to grow up?

Some people never grow up. That's why it's smarter (and more fulfilling) to hang around with the "uncool" people. They tend to be more interesting, and much more dependable friends.

Hey, I think that this is partly the schooling system's fault. Some people just never grow out of the need to be part of the IN crowd.

How old are these idiots you're talking about? I think people usually calm down quite nicely by the time they're 50.

But even among the younger ones, some don't buy into the ethos you describe. So I'd say keep looking, and try to develop good radar so that you can reject the bad ones before they get a chance to make you feel excluded. Fashion zombies and "cool addicts" aren't usually hard to spot. We don't get many of those in the music club I go to.........the guy who usually does the compering is anything but an NT socialite, and he has trouble putting a coherent sentence together, but nobody would dream of replacing him. You just need to get away from judgemental types and you'll be fine.

I quite like the way Jed Mckenna describes full adulthood, and by that metric, very few humans make it into adulthood proper.

I do find that treating most people like they are large children is the course to take.

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I was kidding with the OP

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Speaking of people who need to grow up...

your post sailed right over me head and it wasn't actually the OP I responded to but the poster above you who seemed to have very loud opinions about the fairer gender.