Can I have your opinions on why he treated me this way?

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I was at bar this Friday and I was really feeling nervous that night. I bumped into this guy I knew in the restroom and he said "I thought you were barred from this place you c**t"

I went outside by myself to the smoking area of the establishment and he came up to me (I have not seen him in a year). We started talking to each other and he said things to me such as "your a bit odd aren't you", "guessing you were bullied and not very popular in school", "your a pussey and I bet if I punched you in the face you would not do anything about it" and "if you hang around here on your own you will get beaten up" and "if you try and fight me back I will f**k you up" I didn't want start trouble by getting aggressive so I just went along with what he said.

For the rest of the night he ordered me around (even pushing me about) making me down alcohol and buy him beer with my money. He even made go up to girls in the dance floor and grind against them saying "go on get some p****".

Can I have your opinions on why he was so horrible to me? I knew this guy through another associate of mine who used to tell everyone "he's got autism"

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Is he one of those people who picks on you no matter what you try? Maybe you should go somewhere else if he's harassing and threatening you like that.

He probably feels like a loser inside and wants to lash out. he was also probably drinking, people are less able to curb impulsive behaviour when under the influence.

Was he drunk when he approached you? Sometimes people get drunk and get mean. However you have a right to go to that bar but next time bring a friend to join you. If he bullies you again warn him "I will call the police next time so leave me alone."

So that would explain his behavior but it still might be wise to go to a bar with a friend or two that can help back you up. A bar can be a very dangerous environment and especially alone. It might also be a good idea to find some meet up groups to attend bars as well.

Short answer is the guy sounds like an idiot that needs to be avoided. He's the one with the problem.

I hate to sound like this, but if he was paying so much attention to you, it's VERY likely that he secretly likes you. I don't mean to start anything by saying this. It's just what I've witnessed frequently in my own adventures to clubs and hangouts. Bullies often are afraid of admitting that they are actually extremely interested in somebody, but to act "tough" and "dominant," they will pick on, bully, and sometimes even harm whoever they find attractive. I know this because I used to have it happen to me all the time in high school. I was the one who stood out for being weird, and the bullies found me desirable because of it.

I'd recommend avoiding him at all costs. Even if he does secretly want to be close to you, you should never have to put up with that crap from anybody in your life.

WHY DO YOU HAVE TO GO TO THAT BAR???????

Find some other bar. And don't let anybody bully you like that again.

That was ridiculous, what you described. Why would you even do what the guy said?