strange form of bullying

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Hi i get bullied alot. I am a victim of the strange form of bullying by girls that occures in stages:


1) First they introduce themselves to me and act super nice to me and befriend me. They are very nice for a short while

2) they start finding about my quirks and start criticizing me and putting me down. They tell me not to be so "weird" . They turn nasty after they find out about my "weirdness". They say thinks like "no wonder you dont have any friends"

3) when i dont respond they tell me to stand up for myself .But when i do stand up for myself they go around telling people im a mean person and make me out to be the villain .


4)they start saying horrible things behind my back. They even humilate and mistreat me infront of others


5) i start avoiding them and they start begging me to join their insipid group. They start acting super nice to me for a wwhile and then they go back to being mean again.

I don't think it's strange at all but rather common. Lots of bullies like to be nice so that they can latch themselves onto you so they can pick you apart because they want attention. As for the 'Standing Up' part, are making fun of you because they know they will get a rise out of you.

Social skill wise - you could just introduce yourself in the future and then move on and not talk them much. This is unless you have a special talent such as art or music for you to show off because you never know where that could land you. You might look for some special interest groups because you will not get teased there but rather have things in common with.

Other things you can do
1. If they bother you just walk away "You know this is not a good time."
2. You could also give them a long stare with a firm look by letting them know they aren't going to rule over you.
3. If they make comments like "You're obsessed with me because?" "You're judging me because?"
4. If they make statements about you standing up for yourself "How you would feel about us sitting down to talk about this?" That way you can ask them "I know that you've been calling me 'Weird' but it seems that something else about me is bothering you?"

Also, never ever try to hit them or use hostility against them but go off and cry somewhere that they can't see you. (I learned this one Dr. Grandin).