Right about enemies and Wrong about friends/romance

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Is anyone else always right about people they don't like and wrong about the people that they do like? What I mean is sometimes I avoid people I can see through (which works for me) but I'm mysteriously drawn to people who I can't see through, I think they like me from how great I feel around them, then I'm blindsided when I learn they don't. Is this an aspie thing or are people just not worth a crap period?
I always get backstabbed, misled, cheated on, or dropped cold turkey. I'm beginning to think friends and foes are one in the same. Just curious about others people's experiences...

Well, I would say we are kind of blind when it comes to the people that we do want to be around, where we will not pay as much attention to their flaws as we would others. I don't think this is an ASD thing, this is something that is quite common with a lot of people. We may not even know someone has these flaws until we have known them for a longer period of time, at which time we have already made a commitment to being their friend or partner and we may end up looking past these flaws when we otherwise would not if we had known from the beginning before getting somewhat emotionally attached to them. You'd also be surprised at how many sociopaths are out there, these kind of people can be hard to read and you usually don't find out what they truely are until they have already caused you pain. You have to decide for yourself if it is worth the effort. I am close to thinking it isn't, but that is just where I currently am in my life. I have a good sense of judgement but at times I end up being cautious when I shouldn't be and still end up in "defense mode" towards people that are good and have no bad intentions, which sucks cause it makes me feel like a jerk when I think about it later on. I'm trying to work on not doing that, but it is difficult when people are constantly giving you reasons to justify feeling that way.