Would it be appropriate to attend my boss' funeral?

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22 Dec 2016, 10:42 am

Over the past 7 months, I have been working for an agency that no longer exists. My boss at this workplace passed away.

Would it be appropriate for me to attend his funeral? I want to show good intentions but am not sure what is the best course of action given my role.

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22 Dec 2016, 10:47 am

Why would you not attend?

What are the reasons for not going?

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22 Dec 2016, 10:53 am

feral botanist wrote:

Why would you not attend?

What are the reasons for not going?

Gaining contact with the boss' family (and essentially his private life).

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22 Dec 2016, 10:55 am

MathGirl wrote:

Over the past 7 months, I have been working for an agency that no longer exists. My boss at this workplace passed away.

let me get this straight--when he died, he took the agency with him?

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22 Dec 2016, 10:56 am

It's not just family who attends funerals. All people who have known the deceased may show up. I don't see why you shouldn't go if you want to.

I'm sorry for your loss.

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22 Dec 2016, 10:57 am

Kiprobalhato wrote:

MathGirl wrote:

Over the past 7 months, I have been working for an agency that no longer exists. My boss at this workplace passed away.

let me get this straight--when he died, he took the agency with him?

He gradually downsized it (perhaps knowing he does not have long to live) to essentially having three employees and two clients. One client transitioned out of services and the other will get passed down to private services. He did not have anyone to transfer agency ownership to.

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22 Dec 2016, 10:58 am

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It's not just family who attends funerals. All people who have known the deceased may show up. I don't see why you shouldn't go if you want to.

I'm sorry for your loss.

Thanks! He has been there for me as much as he could so I do want to show my support and condolences.

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22 Dec 2016, 11:03 am

MathGirl wrote:

screen_name wrote:

It's not just family who attends funerals. All people who have known the deceased may show up. I don't see why you shouldn't go if you want to.

I'm sorry for your loss.

Thanks! He has been there for me as much as he could so I do want to show my support and condolences.

Yep, funerals are usually open to all. You might want to find the officiant (priest, senior family member etc.) if you are still concerned about the family's privacy. At a graveside service, you may stand back from the service while still being within earshot.

But, if I were you, I would attend without fear.

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22 Dec 2016, 11:12 am

If he's a Christian, there probably would be a "Wake."

Those are much "safer" than actually attending the funeral.

When you go to the Wake, you can express your condolences to the family, and ask if the actual funeral is a private affair solely for the family of the deceased.

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22 Dec 2016, 12:04 pm

Usually they will say if it is private in the announcement or obituary.

If you had a good working relationship with him and/or a friendship, I would not be worried about going.

His family might like to know about the positive influence he had on your life.

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22 Dec 2016, 12:10 pm

Though I don't like funerals I usually go.

Ear memories of the sound of the sealing of the grave of my mom - still resonate in my brain.
It was 25 years, yesterday.

I've been told not going leaves more emptiness than going. (To funerals).

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22 Dec 2016, 4:22 pm

I'm not going to go as far as to say you should attend the funeral, but I do think it'd be appropriate if you did.

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