She doesn't seem to like me.

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Hi:
I belong to a meetup group for people who share a special interest but the events are far away. So, one a few occasions, I have had a guy drive who also attends pick me up. The second time, he brought along a roommate and her daughter back in January last year. The mom is my age and she has a daughter who is about 6. It was on the way to the party and during the event that she seemed fine. It was on the way back that she seemed to take this nasty attitude with me.

EG- Just about every time I tried to talk, she would attack me verbally by snapping at me over this or that because she was "Tired." Yet, she seemed to use me to let her little girl go to the bathroom in my house without much of a thank you. I asked her little girl if she would like to quickly see some of my collections and she snapped at her daughter in front of me. "You're going potty and that's it!" She then turned over to the nice driver and told him that she could not go into my house.So she had the driver walk in.

She also evidently had several parties for the special interest group that I never heard about and nor was I invited.

I also happened to look at her facebook page and I learned that she has me blocked, but I also have a second account and I happened to notice that she didn't have me blocked on there.

I got invited to another meetup event on Sunday and I get along super well with the others in the group. I am nervous about seeing her again. I don't know what I did to make her dislike me though we met one time.

If she is ugly with me again and tries to use me, how should I approach her?

I would just let it go. Obviously something happened, whether real or imagined on her part, but either way it's not worth it. Just let her be.

I would just be civil to her, don't be overly friendly but don't be rude either. Just nod and smile in her direction and let it go.

If her daughter wants to use your bathroom, I would let her. The six year old doesn't know any better, and it's not putting you out of anything. *shrug* Life is too short to worry about why some almost stranger doesn't like you.

The guy who drove me said that she seems to get cranky every night with people and is also very protective of her daughter and tends to attack people over that.

She also has seemed to monopolize the group by inviting everyone but me or rather other fans who doesn't like. It's not like I did anything to her daughter. Though I did help in trying to being an adult by correcting her daughter and that seemed to set her off. Since then, she has just hated me.

Yet, she acts like I am some bad influence that did something dangerous.

It's obvious that she is not somebody worth associating with. Forget about her.

So what if her roommate picks me up and she is along?

Treat her with respect. Expect the same in return.

If she starts treating you like crap, just ignore her.

What about putting my earphones in and listening to a radio station so I don't have to listen to her?

Yeah, not a good idea to correct other people's kids. They don't like that.

It sounds like they just have some worked up frustrations from the event or the day, or simply ran out of energy and need to vent.
In the situation you were in (being driven home), you were the best "target" to vent against.

I'd just ignore it, assume it isn't aimed at you as a person, but purely at "any person that happens to be near enough and not focused on driving"

Sweet Leaf, her daughter was being obnoxious and didn't seem to listen to her mommy. So I corrected her as well and it was "She heard me!" Her little girl also kept whining the whole car ride about having to go "Potty" and that is when I corrected her. They had asked me to take her to use my bathroom and I said "Sure." When I told her daughter to calm down and that we would be there soon, her mother started picking on me.

Also, I am another female as well and I am single but have no kids but have lots of experience of babysitting my youngest sister during my early adult years.

If she only met me once, then why would she block me? Also, again, she has seemed to take over the group to some degree and host some of the meetup parties and yet, I am never invited and I thought this was an open group.

I feel like she isn't respecting me as a person and I want to know, would it be alright to get a hold of the people who run the group?

Also, I just checked and the roommate who drove me has me blocked as well and I don't know why or what I did.

I can't help but feel like there's a huge chunk of missing information here.

No one was there but you and these other people. If they don't want to talk to you, just leave it alone. You can't force anyone to be friends with you. You really don't have any other choice but to just walk away.