There was a girl who worked in a position above me at the organisation.
She would wave to me whenever I passed by her office. Or say hello and strike up a conversation with me if I entered her building.
I was friendly back.
One day as I was leaving early she came outside her office and was chatting to me. She had no reason to do this, and I found it to be a little flirty and figured she may be interested in me.
The next day I put on a nice shirt and went into work a little early. I went up to her desk and did a bit of small talk, then asked her confidently if she would like to have a coffee with me at the cafe across from the office at break time.
She said she might be busy.
Okay.
I was passing by around morning break time and asked her if she was having a busy day, and she confirmed she was.
Oh well guess I had it wrong.
All I indended to do was ask her if she had a boyfriend.
And explain that I don't partake in workplace relationships.
The next day I was walking by her office and caught her eye, I waved, only she instantly averted her gaze into her desk.
Oh well, at least she will leave me be, I thought. From then on I did not look at her office and stayed away if I could.
Later on I was in the area and having a conversation with a (older)female coworker, she made a simple joke about something and I laughed or something. I worked with mostly female coworkers.
At a later point I was in her office again.
And she began asking me questions. I was giving very terse yes no answers. Then she said something along the lines of "Why don't you talk to me, I don't want you to hate me."
I thought it was a very strange conclusion to draw. Especially since, I'd done nothing wrong.
It's not as if I talked more with my other coworkers at all, I had a very independent sole charge maintenance position.
So as I was leaving that day I looked over to her office and she saw me and I waved goodbye. She waved back.
After that I occaisionally did some small talk, but she would fire a lot of interrogative questions at me.
One day she asked me what I did on the weekend, I mentioned that I was playing some boardgames.
There was a man who worked in a similar mantenance role to me. But he was a real bully. He would go to her office often to chat to her.
One day while I was in a building working, he came up to me, opened the door to the office (the walls & doors were made of glass so he could see I was there), "So you go to boardgame conventions?" He stated, as if he'd found out some terrible secret about me.
Quite frankly I couldn't care less about this idiot, or what he thought about me.
Though I was disappointed that she'd told him that.
After this I became very terse and began avoiding the girl again. One day I was working next door to her office and him and her were standing chatting, even looking at me, almost as if trying to get my attention. I ignored them and focused on my job (and finishing it as quickly as possible).
I'm certain he was saying nasty things about me. He was not attractive (let his body go), he was also married with children, and I'm quite certain no romance took place between them.
I was too afraid to tell her about him or queiry why she had revealed information to him (or even that she might question him about this, as anything that he knew I did not like he'd try to use against me.) it was also difficult to get a private period of time, hence the reason for me wanting to have a coffee with her to find out her intentions.
Later she was leaving to move to another country. She looked sad and angry/or perhaps disappointed at me and said that she was leaving.
Before the end of the day I wrote my email on a piece of paper and said if you want to keep in touch here is my email.
She never emailed me.
I hope I do not see her again, even though she was very attractive.
18 Feb 2017, 8:34 pm
