Tip to make people attracted to you

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Don't be clingy or show any interest toward people and act desperate. It's in the human nature to be warded off by clingy people. If your in a relationship and your man, you need to act like your not interested. This sounds weird but women are attracted to these types of men.

I'm needy & clingy & was pretty desperate within romantic relationships & I know it turned alot of women off but I was wanting a women who was similar to me in those ways so I could be more of my natural self & more comfortable & secure. Thankfully my current girlfriend is kind of needy & clingy too & was kind of wanting someone who was too. She wasn't desperate thou.

Yep some people are beta's and they cannot change, and that's okay, provided they find someone compatible.

I can't say I have ever found that very attractive, more like confusing and/or off putting. If someone doesn't seem interested why would I bother with them? I take things too literally to play along with social games like that. I have also never really understood flirting...like I get what it is for but I've never really known how to do it or react if its done to me.

I thought you were supposed to act interested in people to gain relationships.

To sum up, if you're not desirable, it matters zilch whether you show interest---noöne will be interested in you either way. Basically, what was to be expected.

interest ≠ (needy & clingy)

I guess there is the tricky thing of "the right amount" of interest.

There is a reason why I would avoid a relationship with a male Cinderella. I've been in such a relationship. It was mutual unintentional emotional abuse. And when I saw it through and tried to end it, he guilt-tripped me that I was ruining him by leaving him to his loneliness and he artificially prolonged the relationship in a fairly manipulative way.
I guess when someone attribute all their self-worth to a relationship and commit too early, they are too likely to cling to an unhealthy relationship. But nobody wants to be stuck in an unhealthy relationship – maybe except for the "needy and clingy" ones. And maybe narcissists and other abusers, for their own reasons.

I was so glad to hear after some years that he was the one to end his next relationship because his then-girlfriend was abusive. I was glad he finally gained enough self-respect to put "being respected" before "being in relationship".