People Making Fun of You and You Don't Know It

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Does this happen to anyone else? Where other people make fun of you in school or wherever you are but you don't know it or tell that they are? But you just think they're having fun with you instead of them making fun of you. This happens to me probably everyday in school and I just don't know it. And it sucks.

I have an eidetic memory and I can recall information as far back age the age of 2. For a small part of my life, my mother sent me to an in home daycare which was a terrible place with a nasty babysitter. Outside was a play house that I loved and this one time, I had gone in my pants, and these other children kept going inside the clubhouse and blocked the entry shouting, "No, no,no" repeatedly. When I backed off, I could hear them laughing at me and I thought they were laughing with me but I thought they were playing with me.

Other than that, I have had more passive aggressive actions where the person would say they were my friends and exclude me from things or not show up at my parties. Rather, I would hear from others that I was often made fun of.

I'm totally 100 percent no joke that same way. I heard from a good friend of my today that a lot of people make fun of me and I just can't tell or they do it behind my back. That was the reason why I made this thread.

Like what? You get the typical nasty jokes from the people in the back of the classroom?

Those are just stupid words. Focus on studying and not them.

Last edited by ZachGoodwin on 06 Mar 2017, 1:54 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I actually usually don't. And I think they know that.

Why should you care if people make fun of you? Please just be yourself, and focus on studying. I focused so much on what other people think that it almost ruined my chances of getting an associate's degree. If your friend tells you that a group of people make fun of you, brush it off. I promise you, it'll get worse if you give your attention to it.

But the problem is that they sometimes do it with me and I don't even that they are. I might think they're having fun with me but actually at me. I just can't tell the difference. And I don't know how to tell.

I think it might have happened during middle school and high school but at this point is isn't fun anymore to make fun of me behind my back because I already make fun of myself in front of the whole class >:^)

What do you mean it's fun that it used to be fun that they made fun of you behind your bad? It's never fun. It's always wrong and bad and makes you feel bad and poor about yourself.

Fun for them, or whatever reason there would be to make fun of someone.
However, I never really got made fun of. And I enjoy making fun of myself in a comedic way, when others take it serious I must either be a good actor or they're not realizing I am not serious hahahah
This way people can't enjoy making fun of me because I am aware of it myself and the enjoyment for them to attempt to make me feel bad for it would be completely gone.

One thing that I do get made fun of though is how I often just start smiling or grinning out of nowhere and classmates or teachers always feel the need to point this out or mock me by twitching their mouth but after I did a presentation about my autism to my class I explained that the smiling is actually a serious problem in which get distracted by my own mind and because I am the most hilarious person that I know I just start laughing and I haven't been made fun of my smiling ever since

This always happened to me when I was younger in high school-ish. I think the "solution" is discovering what it is about yourself that makes you seem worthy to be made fun of, and then curb those behaviors or traits when in settings with the people you don't trust. I couldn't have figured this out my "traits" on my own, and you would probably need some outside input from someone very trusted to help determine these things.

As an example, I was always super naive about everything and didn't understand most of the jokes, slang, or references that people made. I would always express my confusion/misunderstanding and ask for an explanation, and it took me a little while to realize that this would make them make fun of me laugh at me, and not in a friendly way. So I eventually learned to pretend to understand things, just play along and react the way everyone else reacted, and then ask a more trusted confidant about it later. It still sucked because I didn't fully understand how much of jerks they were to me until many years later, and even my "confidants" were liked by the mean group so I really was the only one excluded, but at least I was able to mostly avoid the unpleasant confrontations.

It felt shallow and fake to me at first because I felt like I wasn't being my true very honest self, and I hate the idea that I have to hide or pretend. But really, it's kind of just a matter of being selective about who gets to know the real you. Maybe a little something like stranger danger. Lol. At least this is my take on the whole thing.