Kaleido wrote:
dime_jaguar wrote:
Usually letting people know that youlle leave whenever they want kinda gives off the vibe that your needy and very self concious, and sorry to say many people dont like this type of vibe.
Thats very interesting because I know someone like this and they keep making reasons to stay but I and other people don't always have the time and we almost have to push the person into the car to make them leave
I am a lot better than I was but because I feel unsure I tend to leave it to the other person or people I am with and wait for signs, but I get it wrong and sometimes I even mistake a casual remark for them wanting me to go or us to leave a place.
Sometimes I have even shown quite clearly, without knowing it myself, that I am bored but thats another thing I am learning to control now.
I feel like just closing the front door and never going out again sometimes.
Interesting how? That hes not self conscious, maybe he too has AS or something? He does sound very needy. Ive even had some NT friends like this and to be honest, I didnt need him out of my house, I was just annoyed and bored by him. I just ended up picking on him a while(we were good friends) about his bum-ish behavior so
I wasnt as bored. I think everyone runs into these situations but what can ya do other than try to do your best at being nice and considerate, although even i can stray from this road, but hey, it was like 3 am and he had been at my house since like noon the day before!.
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