I'll tell you what attracts people more than having money and things. It is people who for the most part focus on their work and education. If you want to attract the right types of people who care about you for who you truly are. Instead of focusing on how much playing around you can do, focus on how much work and education you can do for yourself. Work hard to get that degree, work hard to get that education, but don't work hard to impress someone. And don't feel like you are some machine if you have to work hard, because by the time you work your hardest and work on your education, you will have a life, and you will have a lot of free time, and you will have a better view on the world than had you did winning everything and living a life by yourself in a room. Work with people, work with yourself, and be honest in the entire process so that you will have the dream of having a real life. Accept that life will hurt you, and that in life you have to dig yourself out of the hole you are in from your mistakes. By the time you finish working your hardest and educating yourself you will be out of the Hell you are on in Earth and you will feel a lot better about yourself, and you will have a valid reason to.