I need someone's help please..

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..but first and foremost, I have never been diagnosed..never had the money or desire. Having said that, one of my dearest friends had been diagnosed early in his childhood, I didn't know him at the time though. We met in high school, his sophmore year, my junior year, and we clicked instantly. I'm horrible at socializing..so for me to click with anyone is a huge accomplishment, but connecting to someone instantly was a new experience. We remained friends until 2 years ago when I moved several states away. I tried to keep in touch, calling texting..anything. I know his life like the back of my hand so I feel with great certainty that it has nothing to do with when I attempt to get in touch with him... So what is it? Can anyone here help me to understand what his mental process might be in letting go of a friendship like this? My only guess is that my leaving offended him, or hurt him in such a way that letting go was easier.

Also.. given my not being on the spectrum I totally get it if you feel I don't belong on this forum, and should you voice that opinion I'll gladly just delete my account, no hard feelings.

thank you

Speaking for myself, I'd suggest in the strongest possible terms; don't take it personally. Maintaining friendships is something which I fundamentally suck at, regardless of how much that person means to me, and I simply can't seem to do long-distance friendships. I regret the feelings of those who've felt hurt by my failure to keep in touch, but it's a skillset I which I neither innately posses nor have been able to develop over time.

thank you for that.. I am quite certain that it wasn't an action now. As in he actively sought the outcome of us no longer speaking. I don't think you should harbor any regret or guilt..I kind of had to go out of my way to get closure about this but I believe anyone who did value you and your friendship would try and do something similar, anything outside of harassing you that is, and come to the same conclusion I came to; It's not personal..

As long as you don't make me smell your jelly, you're all right by me.

Seriously: as long as you believe in the positive message of the Website, you are most welcome here, whether or not you're autistic.

It just sounds like he does what many kids do when they move a few states away: make new friends. I doubt that it was "your fault" that he didn't contact you.