How not to feel awkward

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Yesterday I attended one of my favorite groups who put on a holiday party which was a brunch for a few hours. Among these attendees is someone who I used to associate with but cut out of my life as he was negative, rude but sometimes could put me down. What's more is that he kept picking my other friends apart while refusing to attend my gatherings. Rather, he would want to get together on one one-on-one basis. So, I cut the relationship off for those reasons which were two years ago. Though I see him 6 months to a year now, things are awkward.

Anyway, the event went well as he stayed at his table with a group while I joined another and communicated with them until he got up and walked past me by seeming to pout which made it so akward that I felt guilty to the point of crying. Now I would like to keep attending these events as I have been going through some things of me own but I don't want to let him control my emotions. How do I handle him?

Can you ignore him? I doubt that he'll walk past you and pout every single time you go.

Maybe you only cried for that one particular time Now that you've had time to think about what happened and prepare for the next event, do you feel like you could enjoy the evening without becoming upset?

Maybe you need to do something to resolve the end of your relationship because it doesn't feel finished.

Ignore him and don't give him any attention. You can ask him to leave in a firm voice. If he doesn't accept that he's not your friend then he needs to figure out life on his own.

I am one of those rude bullying friends. I'm trying to outgrow that bullying nature each day. If I could push myself back from talking like a jerk all those times I did I probably would not be in any of the bad situations I used to be in.

I have been listening to some coaching videos on Youtube. One of them said that perhaps he could be a toxic former friend being that he
1. He was nice when we were along and then seemed to act differently around his friends who shared the same interests
2. He picked my friends apart

The video suggested that I distance myself from him at these events and make sure that he sees me talking to other people and also acting like nothing is wrong.

I have an update on this:
I went to another event put on by this organization and it was a success. Yes, he was there and we avoided each other and I was cordial with him. This time it was a cookie baking party I asked him what kind he made and he politely responded though it wasn't friendly. However, I did let the ball be in his court if he wanted to come over and strike up a conversation.

This time I didn't cry because there were lots of other people where who I seemed to hit it off with and I would like to continue to invest my time in them. I also made some good cookies and strike up some good conversations, get some funny pictures, eat good food and left feeling good.

In regards to him, I have decided to leave him alone because, from the sound of one of his current friends, he's going through a rough time. Apparently, he's not going on Facebook like he used to unless it's related to getting an invite from this organization.