Social Initiative

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I get really bored on weekends. Especially now that I'm not studying (maybe I should start a new course).

Every week I get a little stressed at work and I look forward to the weekend where I can veg out and home and relax. Then every weekend I get home tired on Friday night and rest, have a relaxing Saturday morning and by Saturday afternoon, I'm very very bored.

When people hear this they ask "Is it because you don't have any friends?" Well actually I do have friends and if one of them suggests we do something I'm usually happy to go along with it.

So why is it so hard for me to suggest an activity for us to them? I think it's partly social anxiety, partly a lack of initiative and partly a fear that if I do to much stuff on the weekend I won't feel rested by Monday.

Mostly it's a lack of initiative. Maybe it's even an executive function problem (I think about going out with my friends but then I think of all sorts of little things that I should be doing, I can't even go the shops without first spending an hour doing trivial tasks that I just have to do right then for some reason).

Does anyone else have this problem? Does anyone have any solutions to this problem?

I can relate. I'm very rarely the one to suggest anything to do to friends - mostly I just wait for them to throw suggestions my way. And on the extremely rare occasions that I do suggest something, barely anyone joins me. I'd agree that it's likely a lack of initiative.

Sadly, though, I don't have any viable solutions to the issue.