Ok this one just confuses me

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Now after all these years I've become decent at decoding NT body language. Though just today I was confronted with one that just baffled me.

So I was walking back to my car and happen to be along side this girl. She smiled bashfully and kept glancing at me. This alone isn't taht hard to read, it was her actions that confused me as she then put great effort into getting ahead of me and putting distance between us.

Well, assuming you were staring at her, it could have quickly gone from "Oh, he thinks I'm cute" to "Okay, this is getting creepy. Is he still looking? I'm getting out of here."
People are a bit paraniod, I've noticed.

Maybe she thought that you were someone she knew, then realised that you didn't know each other after all and was embarrassed.

Though that kind of thing would often result in those facial expressions changing, they did not

maybe she was hoping you would start a conversation and when u didnt, she felt a little weird and starting walking ahead bof you, and maybe she didnt change her expression because then it wouldve been more awkward.....?

You frightened her.

entirely possible, would seem the negative responce would be the most likely as it had the most definite effect

Your are just assuming that the girl was an NT. Maybe she's an Aspie. She's trying to act
friendly and civilized in the way she imagines the NT world acts, but is confused herself
about the responses she gets.

When I first started to college, I thought the correct thing to do was smile at everyone I
passed. I was terribly confused when some of the boys who smiled back started following me
into classrooms.

I think a good response might have been for you to say something like "Hi. Nice weather we're having, isn't it?"
But say it in a neutral kind of way -- just being polite and validating her existence. That gives her the option of
making a polite response "Yeah, I like the sunshine," and going on her way, or answering with something that
would encourage more conversation.

It could also be that she found you attractive, but sometimes when people are window-shopping they don't really want
the salesperson to come out and talk to them.

Maybe she thought you were attractive or appealing somehow, but then realized that perhaps her smile was sending a message she didn't want to send. That's what I'd do. I'm a married woman, and have no desire to get a guy, but occasionally I'll see someone who is attractive to me in some way, and makes me feel like smiling. But I don't want any man to think I'm coming on to him, or that I'm trying to initiate anything at all. So, as soon as I realize that I'm looking at someone like that, I think, "Oh no! I don't want to look like I'm flirting!" and I'm out of there.

well I should mention this whole thing took like 30 seconds if that, it was a hallway, one way to go

And I do know she might have been a aspie, and as such it was because she attempted to fake it, but even then the signals seemed off. Plus the odds of running into another aspie are slim

Not as slim as you might think. Aspies have been crash-landing on this planet for centuries.
We're everywhere!

I agree with fnord

Isn't it possible that she was just in a hurry to get somewhere?

k I think I'll go with "I freaked her out". Not that it helps, no clue what I could have done better. I mean i was walking down a hallway, cant get more passive then that