I dont have friends

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Everyone at my school thinks I am weird. They never want to hang out with me or really want to hear what I have to say. It hurts my feelings.

Yeah, I am probably annoying. Nobody wants to talk to someone who looks down, speaks in a weird tone, or who is stimming. I have improved through Social skills groups though, not enough to communicate as clearly as most people though. I want to have really good communication skills. But that doesnt seem to be possible. I get anxiety when I have to speak. I have a friend but hes older. Hes 20.

20 is not that much older than 18.

High school is like that. I didn't stim in high school. I didn't talk about my special interests. Still, nobody really wanted to hang out with me. It's just the high school thing. It'll get better in college.

Yeah. Other people in my class have a lot of friends. They make it seem super easy. Its super difficult.

If you speak to many people, and they are telling the truth, they will tell you that high school sucked, and that things got better when they became adults.

Many people who are the "life of the party" in high school do not grow out of their high school mentality. That makes it difficult for them in their adulthood.

I don't find that it gets much better after school. The mean kids grow into even meaner adults.

What is different though is you can meet more people.

Expect your workplace to have some of the same sh!tty people like you went to school with.

people sometimes do become nicer, more humble and develop a larger sense of sonder after high school and in college, but many of them don't and just grow up to become s**t adults.

but the important thing is, you no longer have to BE around them since nobody is forcing you to go to college like they did in high school. i'm pretty sure that forcing hormonal, scared, over stressed young adults to share the same hot rooms for hours a day for years leads to maladaptive behaviors, at least for the ones who really don't wanna be there. those in uni are there by choice (legally speaking, unless in cases of extreme family pressure) so you can kinda guess that structure didn't affect them too bad


but i will tell you

i was like that when i was 14. and i went crazy over the first attractive person to show me any attention or be genuinely nice to me. still am, actually.


don't me like me. try to control that.

Yeah. That makes me feel depressed to think about. Im 18 and I have a job at my aunts used book store. I dont talk much. She hired my younger brother and I. We are both on the spectrum. Hes 16. Our coworkers are very nice and understanding. I have one friend but my brother is having difficulties. His special interest is Ghosts and monsters. Not many people want to talk about it with him. I let him talk but I tend to interupt and talk about cats. But we both understand that special interests are important.

You have mean people. And you have nice people.

Just do your job and mind your p’s and q’s—and you will succeed most of the time.

College is probably a better atmosphere than the working world.

Just speaking truth. Mind your p's and q's good advice but not always effective against aggressive people who prey on the vulnerable.

The world is nothing like Mr. Rogers Neighborhood.

Ok. What are Ps and Qs? . I will try to be careful and safe

pomegranates and quesadillas.....yeah i don't understand that saying either.

It mean’s watch what you say. If you don’t have anything nice to say, keep yer yap shut, and say nothing.

Oh ok. I get it now. I do that already. I dont talk much but when I do, I try to say nice things. Its very difficult during a meltdown though

Highschool is a time when adolescents are trying to fit in and at every cost. Most of them are afraid of being seen as a "Freak" so they resort to joining people who bully and often become one themselves.

However, it's harder for an autistic to join a group like that because:
1. We don't know how to socialize - E.G: Exchange numbers, use small talk,
2. Read social cues
3. Have body language that's off-putting


The best thing to do is look up appropriate topics that people are interested in along with asking people what their interests are while trying to show appreciation for them.