I can empathize a bit if i remind myself

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oscarinthewild
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23 Feb 2019, 9:54 pm

I can empathize a bit if i remind myself constantly but most of the time its easily taken over by forgetfulness, or impulsive overwhelming, or just sad coz ill never feel comfortable .. i kept saying wrong things at wrong pkaces and get myself amd rveryone into trouble i dontbknow what to do .


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23 Feb 2019, 10:16 pm

All I can say is I can relate. I think it just takes practice, rehearsing and then communicating in social situations daily...


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27 Feb 2019, 4:32 am

If it's a physical issue or illness I have can empathize easily because I can imagine their suffering. If it's someone I care about I have no problem, even if it's emotional. However, if it's some random person, I am often coldly rational towards their issue and this results in me coming across as heartless. I am trying to extend my empathy universally because it makes my social ties more effective.



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03 Mar 2019, 1:41 am

well, once u know enough about their situation - try it on. imagine ur own reactions in it, imagine u going thru this loop. it would be inacurate, but it would help u understand another person more, anyways.


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