To avoid using a word by accident that you think is “cool” only to learn it either doesn’t fit your group and shouldn’t be used by you, or offends everyone in general and shouldn’t be used by anyone:
“If you heard it through the screen, saying it is not what you mean. If your face-to-face peers said it, then you won’t regret it.”
This is only true if you’re hanging with the right crowd. I created this quote because the Internet can be a confusing place.