Are You The Same Online As You Are In Real Life?

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17 Aug 2019, 3:13 am

I know this is a difficult one to work out as there is also masking involved...

I once met a group of people from an online Christian site. The then owner of the site was most amused as he said that I was exactly the same in real life as I was online. Ah. As I am writing this, I realize. I sometimes wear my "Acting thick" mask even though I am online, as it is a form of protection. I wonder if that is what he meant? Or is it I speak what comes into my mind? I don't know what they meant, as how can you be someone else online? Wouldn't that be like living a lie. Oh, I would not want to do that! That would be soo complicated. No, I'll be me. I am me. Great! :lol:


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18 Aug 2019, 2:20 am

Most people aren't even the same in real life as they are in real life. The context you're in and the company you're with will often affect how you'll behave. There are things that I'd say and do around certain people that I would never say and do around certain other people.

Same goes for the internet. There are things I'd post here that I'd never post on Facebook. There are things I'd post on Facebook that I'd never post on here. There are things I would say on certain websites and forums that I would not say here. There are things I would say to certain members that I would not say to other members.

So no, I'm not the same online as I am in real life, nor am I the same in real life as I am in real life, nor am I the same online as I am online.



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18 Aug 2019, 2:34 am

i think if you ignored my appearance, you would find i am the same in person as i am online.



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18 Aug 2019, 3:26 am

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
Most people aren't even the same in real life as they are in real life. The context you're in and the company you're with will often affect how you'll behave. There are things that I'd say and do around certain people that I would never say and do around certain other people.

Same goes for the internet. There are things I'd post here that I'd never post on Facebook. There are things I'd post on Facebook that I'd never post on here. There are things I would say on certain websites and forums that I would not say here. There are things I would say to certain members that I would not say to other members.

So no, I'm not the same online as I am in real life, nor am I the same in real life as I am in real life, nor am I the same online as I am online.


That is something I find I don't like doing. On other sites I can't say certain things. I am restricted so I tend not to talk much. I really like this site as I can open up. There is one area I would love to open up but I can't, as so far I have not met anyone on this planet except my Mum and God who would undersand. It is of a Christian nature.

Though no matter who I speak to online or offline, I am generally the same towards except the rare person who is "Dangerous" like someone who lives near here who uses the hint sysem, and if I don't get hints she then talls others how I have not helped her even though she says she asked! Grr! Other then that I am exactly the same online, offline etc. However, I also mask... As I am almost always masking, I am thinking. Maybe the two closest friends have seen me unmask and am ok with it and this is why they are my closest friends?


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Yesterday, 10:10 am

Not sure. I do think 'yes', but in some ways it may or may not count.
My verbal text representation, no matter how similar from another, is very different from my real life counterpart.


Maybe it had something to do with language itself: written English online, spoken Tagalog in real life. That is, if languages do have 'personalities'.
But then going written Tagalog is also just inconsistent if I recall my past online life, only less intense than the now.


I'm inconsistent -- no matter who's around and where I'm.
Doesn't matter if it's my boss during work, my mom at party nights, some old friends visiting home, strangers at public...
Didn't matter if it's the gaming forum I used to go to, that chat rooms I went into, that online game I used to be very active, or whatever social media platforms involved.


In real life, I'm already inconsistent in real time and there are no masking involved. In real life, no one around me could make up their minds what my traits are exactly.
Online, well... You'd be the judge. :lol:

Few things are consistent though; and it has something to do with my current moods and how some mental state thinks... (i.e. If I'm not angry in real life, I cannot sound angry online -- etc... ) Which in and itself inconsistent in real time.


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Yesterday, 11:40 am

Online I don't have as much of an issue with social anxiety as I do in real life, and I don't have the selective mutism to worry about. In person I'm probably a lot more shy and timid than I am online.


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