alexagirard98 wrote:
I'm an 18 year old girl with Asperger's Syndrome. My family moved shortly after I graduated from high school. I don't go to school or any activities, so i'm not really meeting any new people where I live. I'm ALWAYS stuck at home with absolutely NO plans on the weekends, and i'm sick of it! My life is so boring because i'm barely meeting anyone my own age where I live, so I never go out on the weekends or anything. Well, I was out walking my dog(my ONLY friend) when I met this other girl walking her dog. She was really nice and she seemed to like me, and she even said she was 18 like me. This girl seemed like she'd be a potential friend. About a week later, we were both out walking our dogs again and she said hello to me again. I told her that I wanted to become friends with her, and I gave her my phone number and told me she could call and text me anytime she wanted. She looked really happy to get my phone number. I didn't ask for hers because I didn't want to be creepy, so I just gave her mine. I was expecting her to send me a text right away, but it has been a whole week since I gave her my number and I still haven't gotten one call or text from her. Why won't she contact me? I'm a nice person AND loyal friend, so I feel I deserve to hear from her! She's really nice, but she won't get in touch with me! I thought she was my friend! She lives right across the street from me, and I see her having friends over and going out with friends all the time! I understand that she already has her group of friends that she has known longer, but I, on the other hand, have NO friends besides HER! I think it's very rude what she's doing!0 Please help me get her to call or text me, ANYTHING! She is my only friend right now, but she's not calling or texting me! She made it obvious that she likes me, though.
She's not your friend yet. She's just an acquaintance, albeit a friendly one. She doesn't owe you a phone call or a text message. She's probably too busy with her old friends.
Instead of resenting her for not calling you, what you need to do is try to find other friends.
Suggestion: Try to find some autistic friends who are in situations similar to yours. Such people will likely understand you better than any NT girl could, and you will likely have a more equal friendship with them.
You could start right here on Wrong Planet. Post in the sub-forums that pertain to your hobbies/interests, as well as in the sub-forums about autism and about life in general. Then exchange PM's with a few people with whom you've had especially interesting conversations in the public forums (but not too many PM's, for reasons explained in
this thread and
this thread). Then eventually you can exchange email addresses, phone numbers, etc.
If you want to make friends whom you can meet in person, include your general location in your Wrong Planet profile. To protect your privacy, don't be TOO specific about your location. Perhaps mention just your state, if you live in the U.S.A., or just your country, if you live in a smaller country. You MIGHT hear from a WP member who lives in your general locale, although there's no guarantee of this.
Also if you let us know your general locale, perhaps some of us can help you find some local support groups for autistic adults, or for autistic young people. Perhaps you might be able to find some friends there too.
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02 Aug 2019, 12:59 am
Is just a thought.
