Unwritten rule on overly protective parents
Hi:
I often ended up being friends with other people with disabilities and most of them seem to have parents who are protective. Though I do what I can to try and make a impression, a lot of these parents decide they hate me.
One minute I can do things with their adult children and the next, they won't let them get together with me by finding every excuse in the book.
Keep in mind I am more independent while most of my friends live with their parents.
What are some unwritten rules that I am missing? It's not like:
1. I am teaching their children to do drugs
2. Break into properties
3. I have asked them for favors or for money because their parents are loaded
Thou shalt not give other people's children ideas, nor shalt thou enable the children to think for themselves or to find disagreement with their parents.
In all seriousness, an independent aspie could be perceived by the parents as a threat to their authority and credibility in their children's minds.
I know, it makes no sense, but I experienced similar prejudice when parents of (non-dependent) adult children would learn that I played Dungeons & Dragons and didn't go to church.
As if I was going to teach them how to cast spells and worship the Devil (this was Michigan in the 1980s).
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In all seriousness, an independent aspie could be perceived by the parents as a threat to their authority and credibility in their children's minds.
I know, it makes no sense, but I experienced similar prejudice when parents of (non-dependent) adult children would learn that I played Dungeons & Dragons and didn't go to church.
As if I was going to teach them how to cast spells and worship the Devil (this was Michigan in the 1980s).
Thank you very much. I will keep that in mind. However, do I keep these friendships without be isolated?
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I often ended up being friends with other people with disabilities and most of them seem to have parents who are protective. Though I do what I can to try and make a impression, a lot of these parents decide they hate me.
One minute I can do things with their adult children and the next, they won't let them get together with me by finding every excuse in the book.
Keep in mind I am more independent while most of my friends live with their parents.
What are some unwritten rules that I am missing? It's not like:
1. I am teaching their children to do drugs
2. Break into properties
3. I have asked them for favors or for money because their parents are loaded
Maybe they think autism is catchy?
I think Fnord may be onto something, except I can't see it applying to adult children who aren't going to be influenced that much by our unique way of seeing the world.
I remember a family friend telling her child that I was not right in the head because of what I was saying.
I.E. Aspie honesty.
But in that case, the child was only about 10?
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