Narcissistic breadcrumbing

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Being that we autistics tend to be a target group for narcissistics and can't always read cues, I thought that this article would be a good one for the "Social skills and making friends" forums. It could also apply to Love and Dating but since I am not allowed to post twice. Reading this, helps me understand when I have been manipulated.


https://narcissisthunters.com/what-is-n ... dcrumbing/


For example, I used to be friends with someone who was more overt narcissist. She led me around about being her maid of honor for a last-minute wedding. When I talked to her about it on the phone, her details were vague and all over the place. She also proceeded to ghost me for a few weeks, while really making plans to get married at the courthouse. Moreover, she told me that her family planned a small reception afterward but didn't know the details and would text me an invitation. When I told her that I was mad at her, she got really nasty.

If you read the article, her behavior seemed to fall in the category of bread-crumbing

We can try to avoid narcissistic people. There seems to be more of these now than ever as if it is spreading. I am not sure why that would be happening though.

I am wondering if it's because this generation happened to be raised by narcs. According to most psychologists, narcissistic traits develop based on one of two factors in childhood.

They are either spoiled and accustomed to being the center of attention all the time or their parents constantly abused them and said there is something wrong with them. Additionally, narcissists are very insecure individuals with fragile egos but they are too proud to admit it.

As for the bread crumbing and false promises, all of that is just to make the individual feel better about themselves. They don't care if they leave a trail of tears, rather, all they care about is they get their supply.

What do you consider to be "this generation" ?

My kids are in their 20s and I'm as far from a narc as you could get. I did one of the tests here and scored something like 0 or 2 on the whole test. Their dad is diagnosed NPD but they had no contact with him so he didn't shape their personality. I don't know anyone else my age who is diagnosed NPD or even has signs of clinical NPD.

Are you using the term loosely?

I think it's social media that's made all the narcissists come out of the closet or made people become more narcissistic. Whatever year it was that social media emerged, suddenly everyone had their own platform to spout all their ideas, collect followers, get likes and upvotes, all nicely shown in statistics. So people started deliberately posting things they knew would attract attention, more and more and more. Probably blogging sites also added to this- people can go into even more detail on blogs and even make their own communities with themselves as the guru/leader.

Thanks for the article btw!

Hi Babybird, no because they went to the courthouse and got married. She also told me that she was going to renew her vows at a much later date which never happened. We are not friends anymore and haven't been in years, rather, I used her situation because I was talking about bread crumbing.

Isabella, it seems like this day and age, the attitude is all about, "Me, Me, "Me." Also, someone else brought it up.

Maybe they aren’t narcs, maybe it’s the way people sometimes act

Oh no this person is more than a fair weathered friend because

1. Everything was always about her
2. She always had the need to be right all the time
3. She's was the victim
4. I was always someone else's fault
5. I recently stumbled upon her Tiktok account and she used those videos to get attention
6. She made and broke a few promises to me.
7. She lacks empathy for how she treats others
8. If she doesn't like you, then she thinks it's okay to be hateful to those people
9. She's controlling
10. She thinks that she's better than everyone else