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It gets on my n how precious lil "people" have the nerve to tell me every slightest thing I do that they don't like but when they do something I don't like I don't feel entitled to tell them

Furthermore it is a slap across the face when they have the same to act like they have never done anything wrong before, or that they "care", "help", "friend"


(Puke)

People are hypocrites and we often times don't agree with them about what the rules ought to be. And even when that isn't the case, people are just very inconsistent.

Am not sure , entitled atitude describes this but I am pretty sure faulty reasoning skills seems to be a constant in a large number of NTs that I have become familiar with over the years. Gocusing on it . Could make a person crazy imho

"faulty reasoning", you mean "logical fallacy"?

"Logic could be used to justify anything"

Everyone has subconscious biases

Most precious lil "people" think of what conclusion they want and think of how to get there. They try to make themselves look as good as possible and make me look like public enemy. Instead I look at all the evi and come u with the worst conclusion.

^ I have said something like this before. I notice it happens a lot. People make a quick conclusion, then do everything to prove it. There are even companies that hire people to make certain conclusions seem valid. The tobacco companies were a good example. With enough training and resources, they can misguide people with impressive effectiveness.

That has nothing to do with being autistic. Rather it's called human nature where people have a big problem with pride and egos.

that innocent, "holier than thou", self righteous lil attitude makes me wanna puke.

they made so many subconscious assumptions that are wrong. they are not willing to change the slightest thing for me, while they insist that i just "have" to drastically, immediately, permanently and cheerfully change *anything* they do not "like", just b/c they do not like or understand it.

entitled precious lil "people".

that's not "friendship". that's slavery.

You have no idea how many times I have dealt with one-sided situations that it's not even funny.

Until most recently, I had been attending a local autism group that was put on by two people who were supposed to be my friend. I felt like I was expected to bend over backwards for these people and their socials. Then when it came to inviting me to anything, they "Never had time." I eventually got tired of playing that game and cut because people out of my life.

Not sure I understand what you are complaining about here.

Running a "local autism group" takes a lot of time and energy. It is quite understandable that the leaders wouldn't have much time or energy for a social life outside the context of the group.

I don't understand why you would see this as a reason to cut them out of your life altogether. I can understand why you wouldn't see them as being among your closest friends, but I don't understand why you can't see them as friendly acquaintances, at least.

You often complain about friends or ex-friends not giving you enough attention, I've noticed. And perhaps some of them really are bad friends. But you seem to have a very demanding, all-or-nothing attitude toward friendship.

Not every friend can be a close friend. But it is good to have a network of friendly acquaintances, as well as a few close friends.