Weird ways your peers treated you at school

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I was treated in some unfair ways at school. One of them was girls who didn't want to be friends with me but not wanting me to make friends with anyone else either. They literally didn't care about me, would ignore and exclude me and more or less forget about me existing, but as soon as they saw I had another friend they were suddenly there, trying to break us up. I never understood why. Maybe they just liked seeing me on my own.

Another situation I remember was when I had two friends (let's call them Girl A and Girl B), at age 15. It was a freezing cold day and it was lunch time (recess?) and we wanted to go inside to the computer room to keep warm and play computer games. The corridors (hallways) were patrolled by teachers but we knew that once we were in the computer room they wouldn't chuck us out, as they weren't patrolling classrooms.
So the three of us crept in, and we had to be quick before a teacher saw us, so we quickly dashed in. But Girl A hung back at the door. We beckoned her to get in quickly but for some reason she wouldn't, so we had no choice but to quickly run to the computer room as we heard a teacher coming.
In the afternoon class Girl A was mad at us and sarcastically said "thanks for waiting for me earlier! I had to stand out in the freezing cold for the rest of lunch time!" Which made us feel bad.

Then cut forward to a really hot summer day. After school me and the two girls went into town, but I wanted to quickly run home and get changed out of my school uniform (their homes weren't local but mine was). They said they'll wait on the bench for me. I said I won't be long, and I dashed home to get changed into my shorts and t-shirt, then dashed back to the town towards the bench. But they were nowhere to be seen. I waited for ages, then went looking for them. I found them loitering across the street, so I went over to them, feeling a bit hurt that they seemingly had abandoned me. But I decided not to make an issue of it, and just carried on hanging out with them. They never said sorry or anything.

Now, if you compare these two situations, me and Girl B had a reason to not wait for Girl A that cold day because we all knew that we were at risk of getting busted by a teacher so had to be quick, and Girl A could have just come with us while the coast was clear. But on the hot day, we had all planned to meet on a bench, and there was nobody patrolling the town nor the bench, so they had no reason really to not wait for me, except to think "oh good, that's her away for a little while, let's make the best of it!" But Girl A didn't have an ounce of guilt or acknowledgement or anything.
But when this happens to her, oh it's really bad and we all have to feel sorry for her.

I did find out for myself this Girl A was the selfish type who couldn't seem to keep friends.

I never had any friends at school at all. It was a terrible time, but made me self sufficient in the end.

At school, I'm a mix of ticking bomb, safe haven, intimidator, honorary top student, and an exception nobody should bother.

People cannot exactly place me.
I can keep up with nerds and honor students, I can keep up with people with physicality, I can keep up kids nobody wants to mess -- be it one of those notorious bullies or one of those high status kids.

At any competitions, they want me. Whether it's a game, graded group projects, or whatever group participation.
I get to choose if I participate or not. No questions asked. They cannot call me out.

Teachers let me sleep in class. And can't do anything about it.
Why?? They will call me in class or have a surprise quiz -- I'd answer or pass all of them. They cannot hold that "disrespect" against me, they cannot sprung anything up and use me "as an example" either.

And I don't disrupt any classes, and to make me disrupt any class involves goading me into it -- people knew better not to.

Reason why kids tried to bully me was a chase. They cannot fight me head on, they want "a stupid thrill" by going after them.
Thus everyone can see -- do not bother me, do not piss me off.

Any kid who tried to make friends with me would want something from me, in one form or another.
Whether it's being safe from bullies or dark hallways, honor students hint person, that kid who's good with drawing, that one kid who has all the written lectures and homework...


In the end, I'm mostly alone.
And I could care less whatever club they're running.


Essentially, I'm the kid someone else needed more than said kid ever needed anyone else.
Anyone fool can misinterpret the whole thing as me being lonely, but I never were. It took some students to figure that I'm not lonely.

I just let anyone run away with their assumptions, and their assumptions are too varied to not be ever be one sided.

Thus peers at school cannot place me, just do not know what to do with me to a point they're the ones who's being awkward around me.

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Being an enigma seems to be common. I recall in college being something of an interchangeable mystery. With none of my peers knowing anything about me, I could present or claim to have done anything. While most tall tales were spun in jest the possibility still existed.

I forget the reason, but the most comical one I recall is some of my peers in middle school thinking I would become a mercenary. I don't even remember why, just that stray fact.

I was bullied via exclusion, especially by girls.

It was really interesting because right before the big "we don't want you talking to us" bang I would all of a sudden have like ten friends who adored me and thought I was so cool and interesting. All they wanted was for me to draw them things, they didn't really care about the things I had to say.

I'd get called weird for drawing the same things over and over again like My Little Pony, Bowser from the Mario bros. franchise, and my own original characters. Like, I couldn't even have a leisurely conversation with some of my actual friends about Bowser and my "head canons" because they'd literally walk from across the tables or even room, come up to me and call me weird and laugh in my face.

Today, I struggle with the same deal but I don't care as much as I used to. I'm excluded even when I try "fitting in", or when I keep to myself. I'm in college and so far these past weeks have been people looking me up and down, laughing or giving me a dirty look, then leaving and not socializing. I've tried socializing first and I get the same reactions. Whatever, I'm here for the brains, just like a zombie.

I remember a time when I was about 12-13 the only time the other girls in my class would talk to me is when I was eating sweets, they'd go "oh can I have one, please?" And, wanting them to just like me, I gave them one. Then they went back to ignoring me again.

Most of the bullying I went through was physical. People throwing food, shoving me in small corners, tripping me up in the hall, throwing me off a seat and sitting on it. That kind of thing.

I remember a guy did that once (tipped me off my chair). He sat next to my friends and he said that my friends were much too cool for me. Yet the girls he sat next to didn't like him either. I'm not sure why he was so...(jealous? idk) of me. It's not like me being there changed anything, they could have easily been friends with both me and him so I don't know why he was trying to replace me. I was just there, why did he have beef?

Then there was the time this girl threw paint in my face when I walked into art class and my days was that a pain to wash off.

It seemed like in elementary school thins weren't great but they were tolerable. JR high hit, BAM everyone hates me.

I got a lot of what I call " mean nice", basically this passive aggressive nonsense. Talked to like I was an idiot. This still happens at times in the workplace at 45 but thankfully much less so.

High school was no picnic but some of the BS stopped when I got there. To this day, I still get flashbacks now and then to 7th grade, which I think I took a beating nearly every day. Emotionally and at times physically.

There's one thing that stands out in my memory and it's quite funny. I smile when I think about it

We must have been somewhere between 13 and 15 at the time

I was really very much like a boy and my friends (all girls) used to like to ambush me and make me up like a girl

It was hilarious because I still looked like a boy but in girls makeup and stuff

We did shave one of the other girls (my best friend) eye brow off..yeah just the one
I think I remember her having to draw it back on when she came to school

Oh my cod

I think I would have had more friends at high school if I wasn't such a boy. I mean I could have made a bit more effort with fashion and make-up. On non-uniform days I'd come into school wearing my brother's hand-me-downs and kinda showing off how boyish I could be, while the other girls probably thought "ew, she ain't a normal girl". Even the other tomboys at least looked trendy. My mum wanted to take me clothes shopping but each time I'd just refuse because it made me feel under pressure to act like a normal teenage girl. And my mum would reply with "well why would you want to act like a mental patient for?" She didn't get the point that it wasn't a mental patient I wanted to act like, it was just the girl's fashion that I had no interest in and I missed being a younger kid where I could get away with being myself more. It's hard to act 15 when your mind is 11 with hyperactivity. I wasn't interested in any of the stuff teenage girls should be into. I just wanted to go from 12 to 20 and skip the difficult teenage stage, although my teenage years did get easier as time went on, and when I was 17 I was more like a normal teenage girl.

It's also frustrating that other people with AS, ADHD or other social awkward thing find a best friend who is similar to them, yet whenever I found someone who was similar to me they seemed to be very difficult to get on with and kept falling out with me.

It's like I'm too socially awkward for NT peers but too socially "normal" for non-NT peers. I think it's because I have the social intelligence that they may lack, but they seem to know more how to be as in behaviour while I'm erratic and hyperactive. By social intelligence I mean being able to understand social cues and feelings and reading between the lines and seeing grey areas and patterns in social behaviours, things like that. But performing appropriately around people seems to be what I suck at. Inwardly I have all the social skills the average NT has. But it's being able to behave appropriately that can be tricky for me. I don't mean behaving really inappropriately, but I mean I impulsively say daft things or can be goofy, stuff like that. And that seems to be a huge turn-off for everyone apparently.