Feel like everyone enjoys every moment but me ?

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I seem to feel as though we live in a society where we are "expected" to make the most of life and enjoy every moment. I mean I see self help books about this stuff and bucket list journals and so on and it does make me feel like my life isn't as enjoyable as others because if seen social media posts of people in their 20s and 30s, with plenty of mates, having a whale of a time at a party somewhere or out for the day somewhere nice and selfies everywhere and I look at myself and there are no selfies of me and I don't really like them really, I've got few mates and most of my going out is on my own and my weekends are nearly always at home.

It feels as though I'm wasting life and everyone else is making the most of every moment and minute and is not having worries and negative thoughts like me. It feels as though if someone hasn't still got much of a social life even after school, uni etc then people will look back thinking life was lonely and boring.

I was never truly able to enjoy anything for most of my life because of some of my most disruptive personal factors.

And it's not depression. It's not anhedonia either.

Nor I seek happiness at all.
Because what I sought is control and intentions matching my whim.

Still, I couldn't enjoy a lot of things because my body was very loud. I could be invited on an outing and go swimming -- I like to swim, win coins by diving, and all that, along with food.
Yet and yet, I'd struggle to enjoy all because of some pain here, some incoherent head there, or too busy sneezing and breathing uncomfortably.

Thus in my case...
... Expecting to enjoy, appreciate experience -- is largely a moot point for me as long as I'm in this body.

So when society expects one to enjoy life, make the most of it -- I see it as something that's not realistic.

Unless you've reach a level where you're not coping with a lot of crap that most humans do, nor have some forms of conditioning affect whatever all because of some childhood hung up.

Actually, literally doing so is unrealistic. At large. Thus I never believed in it, at all.

In appearance, it looked like enjoying the moment, vibe with another, etc.
Reality is that they're all coping with crap. By being flooded by feel good stuff that is poison of their choice, and it's through pleasurable sensations.

Humans as a whole, rarely ever felt true joy. Pleasure, yes. Happiness? Not really.

It's a common mistake to mistaken pleasure for happiness -- and thus thought that saying meant "Enter the hedonistic treadmill by partying with drinks, drugs, food, sex, whatsoever was on a hype, etc. by being a repeat consumers of such".

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Find something meaningful to spend your time doing. Something that requires a little commitment and discipline to work towards achieving. Perhaps use social media to chart and share your progress, with other people with the same interest/activity.
That's what I'm doing, my stuff gets very low numbers of views and likes, which while it would be nice to have more views and likes, that's only a part of why I'm doing it. It gives me something to focus on that isn't other people. I rarely socialize, barely have anyone to socialize with, as I've grown older that has gradually turned from being a source of pain and anxiety to something I've accepted, and no longer seek.

I used to feel like everyone in the world was doing something without me. I was left out the picture.

My life also improved when I met my current long-term partner, pooled finances enabled a better life.

While some people enjoy life more then other people, it is not true that everybody enjoys every minute of life. People get sick, get divorced, and struggle to make ends meet etc. Social media gives you only a partial picture of peoples lives, what they want you to see. Many do not show you when they meltdown, screw up, and act like an a**hole, and say problematic things.

It was brutal having a partner with ALS. Sometimes we'd get to a great tourist spot and her body would shut down and we couldn't do anything once we got there.