returning friend

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Sorry I have to swear...SHEEEEETIIIIIIII%%%%%%

A friend of mine has been living abroad for a couple of years anyway shes returned and shes one of my biggest critics. Now there have been a number of friends I have had to cut out of my life but I just can't cut this lass out cos shes okay underneath it all. What am I going to do! Luckily we live in different towns I just can't cope with her being here again. Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh That claustrophobic feeling is coming over me

I'm not sure why you want to be around this person if she makes you so unhappy. Doesn't sound much like a friend to me. If you are going to try to stay friends with a critical person, the key is setting boundaries. What kinds of behaviors are you talking about when you say she's your biggest critic?

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Well before my diagnosis of AS I thought I had various other things and she just labelled me a hypochondraic basically she has not done anything that bad its just she likes to give advice and I can't hack it. Its the old can't take criticism thing, she thinks she knows me but just does not. We have mutual friends so it would be hard for me to sever ties with her. I

think you are absolutely spot on when you say establish boundaries, this is what I must do and be assertive. the main thing she has difficulty with is that I don't develop or do enough with my time, working, setting up an independent home is just not possible at the moment and she can't believe I still have not moved on since shes been away. Which of course leaves me feeling a bit small. I take small steps which is frustrating for any NT on the outside to stomach.