GAH! she annoys me!

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I've had this really annoying friend. she won't leave me alone, and so far this summer has only emailed em to complain or brag. I told her I had AS and she completely ignored it. So, now she's all bragging about her school, so i bragged about mine, a school for aspies and auties. and she goes "why are you going there?"
I go "because I have aspergers syndrome?"

now she's acting all weird. "ohhh...I um...didn't know...what *is* it?" she knew. I just don't mention it a lot. She thinks ADD doesn't exist, and at her birthday dinner she mentioned a friend of my who is HFA(nologner friedns though) and her family was like "lets not talk about him. he can't help what he is"
and another friend fo hers when we passed a thrift store called ret*d childrens, was like "ugh, ret*d children, why not autism, those disgusting people need the help."

so...yeah...i'm annoyed. i've been trying to get rid of her, she keeps popping back up. I sent her the wikipedia on. it. KBABZ had a great one up he wrote awhile back. I ahd printed it out and showed her. see hwo she rememberss important things.

There's a name for people like that, and it's not "friend".

thats why i'm trying to rid myself of her.

She probably can't reconcile your obviously high function with her own idea of what 'ret*d' or 'autistic' actually is.

I get people waving away any idea that I am not what they think I am, like I am making such a big deal about hardly anything, while underneath everything I am dancing as fast as I can just to keep up with them, socially.

and anyway, she stays around you so she can dig at your insecurities, it amuses her, because she is just like her folks (her family was like "lets not talk about him. he can't help what he is" )

gag me with a salad fork!

you have plenty of friends here.

Merle

I was given this sig from a freind of mine, suggesting I use this technique when around people like your "friend"
(Hemi what'sis is a tumor of the basel ganglia that causes random violent backhanded jerks of the arm and hand. . .)

thanks. I feel better now.

At first I was thinking, "Gee, what a jerk!" but then I had a thought. Maybe she herself has some brain disfunction going on that keeps her from comprehending or sympathising or recognizing what a jerk she is being? She's not catching the clues that you want to dump her. She's clinging to you. Why? Are you the one decent person she knows and feels safe around?

I don't know. I was her only friend until she got another friend. Her family is horrible. she loves them but their extremely religious...and weird. The dad is a bully, her brother is a nasty replica of him (the first time we met he called me fat and ugly, and since he's been nasty) and the mom is a meek woman who looks 20 years older than her age (about 50, and she looks like she's a grandma) she never looks nice.

It's awful.

I send her the wikipedia article lmaybe a more than half an hour ago and she now writes and goes "Oh." and goes on to ask if another friend of mine ever sent me some pictures she wants. is she avoiding it or what?

Sounds like a family of nutcases. Is she intelligent?

I am convinced we are a magnet for the "disturbed".Some of them are nice and some of them are not so nice(narcisistic,manipulative,selfish,borderlines).maybe some of them like us because we are less likely to bully them,some because they can get something from us or we are so desperate for friends we will put up with their abuse(or are slower to see it).I think we are often so used to being bullied ourselves,we maybe more patient with their "flaws and vulnerabilites".

How to get rid of her.....I tend to just stop responding and they eventually go find someone else to leach off.

I think you've hit the nail on the head there. Well put.

And I loved your sig!

lol. you should have sex with her...

then tell her you don't want to be friends anymore...

Sounds like the dad and brother suck the life out of anyone who gets close, like the mother. Daughter is becoming that way, too. I've known bully parents who hide behind religion before. They can find a Bible verse to twist to justify anything they do. They're semi-professional self-esteem killers. The kids will take years of analysis to get over it, if they ever do. Meanwhile, get away however you can.