Using inside voice

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Why is it in situations such as parties do NT's not know how to use their inside voice? I go to a bible study Monday nights at a friend's house in which 30-40 young adults are crammed into their living room for socializing before and after the bible study. With many conversations carrying on all at once, it's very hard for me to socialize. One time I even had an outburst because everyone started talking all at once during the bible study. Why can't they just learn to talk softer?

I was told by my therapist not to listen to my inside voice.

Actually, I don't think that this is an NT thing, but more of a young adult thing. A number of people are talking simultaniously. One speaker decides that he must speak more boldly in order to be better understood by those around him, so he does that. This increases the overall volume of the room's background noise. A second speaker compensates for this increase by letting herself speak more loudly. And it just keeps building up like a snowball rolling downhill.

NT's don't get as confused by layered noises like we do. But the reason that these young adults speak more loudly is actually to have his or her voice break out from the background layers and become more independent. While this just adds to the chaos, in some ways it is better than older adults who speak softly and simply expect for you to be able to discern their voice from the cacophony in the background. While young adults' methods result in such a din, at least they are well intentioned.

Of which I completely disagree. This innervoice is like
our spiritguide aiding us. NT's can't get past this
"I see it therefore it exist" thing. Bah-hum-bug
to this person!

So Paul, listen and learn from your inner voice, provided
it is a spiritguide!

Sincerely,
Ghosthunter

Even if they are well-intentioned, it's still hard to tell who is saying what.

I co-lead a family group at my school (like a Bible study held once a week) with a few other girls and when everyone started talking at once or when I needed their attention, I would flick the lights off then back on again. Sometimes the visual clue allows more people to respond than the auditory, especially when there is a lot of noise to begin with.

Yeah, I get really confused by layered noises. Whenever someone is talking to me and I can hear another conversation, I have to ask whoever I'm talking with to repeat themselves, sometimes multiple times before I can process what they've said. I should really learn how to read lips...

Sometimes I use it, but other times I use the opposite, my outside voice. This is extremely important, because I work in a library now. I use my outside voice when I don't mean to. This shows that I am not paying attention to my tone. I don't use my outside voice intentionally. I just have to try to remember. I may not possibly know the difference between the two tones.

He was making a joke. Crazy people "do what the voices tell me." It's an old joke.

When you say 'inner voice' do you mean the part of yourself that gives you a 'running commentary' about what you are doing, and sometimes you say things out loud when you don't mean to?

I have found that I can remain almost silent for most of the time, because if I talk to myself while I am doing something, people around me regard me as being strange, with all the negative social collateral that entails. It s a form of 'negative conditioining', but apart from those times when I am on my own, I do not say things out loud unless they are for other people.

I assume you mean a quieter voice suitable for talking indoors?

Using a quieter voice inside is generally looked upon as favourable by most people.