Social-emotional age?

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I overheard my mom talking to someone about my autism and I repeated part of it with her(to be annoying and silly) when she said the line about "she's 8 years old emotionally and will be for her entire life". So while I have a higher than average intellect, I experience emotions like an 8 year old child would. I tend to come across as very childlike in person and more than once it's led someone to ask my mom if I'm mentally ret*d.

I'm not very verbal though I can talk, I just hate talking because it feels "slow". I'm much more articulate in writing/singing.


So I'm wondering--what's everyone else's social-emotional age?

Lets see...I have been called an 8 year old..but I think that was an exaggeration. I am really not sure....I am 32...and I am pretty sure it is below that of the average 19 year old based on the experience of having to be around them...I think I would place myself around 13 or 14...but I AM 32 and have been around the block....so it is sorta difficult to estimate an exact age. Kids relate to me very well and often don't even think of me as an adult..which I find rather flattering...when i am hanging out with Flakey's 8 and 6 year old nieces, I act alot like them....speak their language...etc...but I don't act like that all the time.

Chronically, I am 47. Emotionally, more like my late 20s or early 30s. I like to experience new and different areas such as medical assisting even though I am middle aged. In appearance, I look considerably younger than my age.

I still have an interest in outdoor critters. My newest obsession is Sea Monkeys in a saltwater aquarium. So if that makes me emotionally younger than 47... They say you're as young as you feel

I'm 28, but have been screwed with the opposite condition of looking 3-10 years older than I am since I was 10.

When I studied in Germany at age 19, my host mother said I simultaniously spoke like a Chinese-wise-man but acted like a baby. I wish more had changed since then...

My emotional and chronological age are pretty much the same--28.

Tim

how should I know?

I find this misleading, because not everyone acts their age.

Tim

Hmmm...chronologically I'm 37. Physically I'm 120 or at least I have days where I feel that old. Maturity I'm in my 20's... emotionally I think I'm up to my teens now. No one ever questions that I'm an adult but I don't experience things in the same way. I was emotionally stalled for a long arse time and it wasn't until I was nearly 30 that I started growing emotionally even though I knew it was a problem. So yea, figure 13 or 14.

It all varies. Emotionless, I'm my age. Excited can make me act like a kid if I don't watch it. Fear can make me do strange things, but I often feel like a very little kid when it gets overwelming and looks helpless. Seriousness, my age or older perhaps. Anger is pretty ageless to me. Sadness too. Overall, I think I act my age, with a few younger kid feeling slip ups. I can't help it! Sometimes I feel little again! Anyone else have that? I think its all innocence. Oh well. -Power Girl

This is an interesting thread... socially I'm probably anywhere from 11 to 16. Standard teenage behavior on my part, though probably closer to 12 or 13 than anything else. Emotionally I'm all over the place, sometimes mature and sometimes not. Maybe early 20s?

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sounds about right... (but for the anger; I still need to learn to be angry)

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Im 19 and emotionally and socially Im pretty immature, I'd say maybe around 13, 14.

I'm unsure... but 2 things of relatively recent times spring to mind.

When I was with my ex, which is like many months ago, she once said I'm "Like a big kid".
And part of my music in the community project was participating in a playgroup thing. I was very childlike and quite good at it. It's like - adults and toddlers - you know... the whole playgroup esc kinda thing. Me and a friend called Reece had to participate.

I have no idea how to even measure this but I'm often mistaken for someone much younger than I am. I'm 36, I look about 25 (I'm told) and I don't know how old I act but I'm often referred to as a 'big kid'. I guess it's because I'm not doing what a 36 year old 'should' be doing: I'm not not married or living with anyone, I don't have kids, I don't have a proper career, I still live in rented accomodation, I'm totally commitment-phobic and I'm not up to my arse in debt which seems to be the current trend with my peers.

I've never been able to relate to others my age once I got past about 25. But who decides what a 36 year old should be doing anyway? I look at others my age and see them stressing about their debts, hating their jobs, living a half-life of work, kids, home and buying new stuff for the house at weekends. I've been criticised many times by workmates for not acting or being 'my age' but really, I can't see anything attractive about it. OK so I don't fit the mould of a typical 36 year old but I'm happy with my responsibility-free life and I love the way I can still get excited about little things that other people see as trivial and a bit sad.