Does anyone have an intense problem with asking for help?

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I remember when I was growing up, I always had so many questions for the teacher but I never could raise my hand for help or ask a question. I still have this problem, and it hurts my grade at times. Anyone else have this problem?

Also I have this horrible habit of alot of times being able to say the right answer to a question just barely loud enough, but then another person close enough hears me, steals it and takes my thunder, haha. Happen to anyone? So damn annoying..

yes.. and i'm getting poorer by the day.. i've been hinting about needed more help.

a person i know was shocked when i told him i didn't get into the college here. the main reason i didn't was because i didn't get the help i needed to fill out forms.. i have no clue where to go either. he was supposed to help me, but told me i was too weird to be his friend. maybe by the fall i'll have figured it out on my own.

Sometimes I have that problem, but it was a major problem for me when I was younger. Now I am close enough with a few of my teachers that I don't have a problem asking them for help. But there are still times when I don't feel comfortable to ask help, even if I'm having serious trouble.

i don't like asking directly for help on things...per se
as for asking questions though? hell, i don't know when to shut up! i'm worse that a three year old asking 'why?'...if i am interested in learning about something, i'll ask questions until i piss the person off. and then i feel bad. and then i go through a spell of not wanting to ask any questions at all, because i'm afraid of getting that reaction again...it's all kinda warped. in fact, i just did it with a friend of mine the other day, pissed him off by asking too many questions on a subject i know little about, and now i feel like i shouldn't ever ask questions of him again. which i know is stupid.
maybe the fear of asking the quesitons or responding to them is because you think you'll look stupid for asking? just remember, no question is a stupid question if you don't know the answer. that's what got me into asking questions, was being told this. but i guess i take it too far. like that three year old...lol

When I was at primary school, this was probably the main reason why I failed tests. There were either three things that I did when I was having trouble with something...

1) I would sit quietly and think of something completely irrelevant and just go into my own world, as to avoid the frustration of not knowing how to do that task.

2) I would try over and over again and wouldn't move on until i'd finish the task. Sometimes I would read the problem over and over again [if it were a worksheet] and do that for the entire lesson without getting anything else completed.

3) I would end up crying and/or being violent towards myself...this did not look good on my report card.

I still do have trouble asking for help at the age of 16, but since I don't go to school anymore, it's not as necessary in formal settings so am finding it slightly easier to do. [eg-when at home and having trouble with computer, I can ask for help from my mother].

i have trouble asking for help in most circumstances as i find it embarresing.

I am always too embarrassed to ask for help from other people - I was legendary for it in school.

Sometimes I can have that anxiety. It was more common when I was younger. If I usually have a question nowadays, I usually wait until after class to ask.

A. Yes, I have a very hard time asking for help, and I feel bad about it every time.

B. Start shouting, it's only high school

I have a hard time, asking for help. I don't want people to presume that I'm not right, in the head, so I just don't ask for help.

At school, not at all. That is the purpose of a teacher, to guide you and assist you in the process of learning.

That is their function.

But at work, or out in the real world.... yes. I find it extremely difficult.

I dont ask for help and I dont ask for things I need. This is in all situations like at school, work home.

When I used to go school I was failing in class because I wouldnt ask for help at all when I didnt know something and that was quite often because back then I couldnt even see the blackboard/whiteboard the teacher writes on but I never said anything and still manage to get away with it and not having any help. The class was a waste of time really I would just get by ignoring what they say and just read and learn alone from the textbooks and use some logic.

At home I used to need stuff all the time like clothes, things for school and all the usual things kids needed but I didnt ask my mum for anything because she was a single parent and didnt have much money to spend so I thought its best for me to go without. But this led to resentment of my NT brother because he would ask and get all he wanted.

This also becomes a problem later when you go to work and you need help with doing a task like a box is too heavy to lift alone quickly/easily but you still struggle to carry it yourself because its easier not to ask for help. Asking for needed pay rises would also be related because if you dont ask you might never get one and inflation will just keep going up and up.

So I definitely have a problem with asking for help and asking for anything at all.

i have never liked asking for help, but now i am at uni i have realised that if i dont ask for help when i dont understand things i will fail the exams. i have got around this by emailing lecturers with questions rather than asking them face to face. this bothers me a lot less

Yes. I find myself completely unable to ask for help. I think it stems from my paralyzing unmedicated social anxiety. Plus I get so embarrassed when I don't know something. I would rather spend 2 hours trying to figure out how to solve a math problem than ask the prof about it in class.

I'm so bad at asking for help. I'd rather struggle for hours trying to figure it out my way than to risk looking stupid.

At uni, the lecturers used to hand out anonymous questionnaires about their teaching which was brilliant. I was completely unable to grasp the concepts of space, time and causality in Philosophy, so I wrote on the questionnaire that I needed the lecturer to draw pictures as he went. Lo and behold, the next week he started drawing pictures of all the concepts

No.