Still lonely.....

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How do I meet other people? I desperatly need more social interaction in my life, but I don't know how to meet other people. I don't need it online, I need this social interaction from other people around where I am, people I can just be with with and enjoy a good conversation, not like NT small talk however, but an actual verbal conversation. But as I said, my problem is I am shy, afraid of making a mistake socially, and don't know how to meet other people. Please help me.

At your age I would suggest joining a group that needs volunteers. Something like a small amateur theater troupe that always needs people to help with the production, doing lights, moving sets. Any community outreach group, a lady friend always tells me how attractive I am because I love animals. She's not PETA, but is an advocate of sorts. Join a society that rescues animals and you'll meet people (women).

The Prof is right (as usual) when you are a volunteer no one can 'fire' you!:) and you immediately have a 'place' and 'standing' when you tote that stage flat or care for those dogs and cats. You become part of a group and a welcome member of the team when you give your time and effort to further the cause or dream.

it's a win-win situation!

Merle

You and me both Pad.

I'm in the same boat. I have virtually no friends.

I would suggest figuring out who the people are who you find it easiest to be with (that's how I measure friendships).

1. Marital Arts
2. Ballroom dancing
3. Volleyball
4. Yoga
5. Water Aerobics
6. Co-ed sports.

You don't have to make any small talk in these activities, but if you keep going to them you will discover that people will start talking to you. I'm not sure if you male or female. Your local YMCA or YWCA should have all these activities at a reasonable rate. You'll have so much fun that you won't have time to think about shyness. And that what it's all about anyway.

Opps! You are male. I saw that on your profile. In that case, you should do those the activities that I describe in my last post.
You'll see women in short shorts and swimsuits. I can tell you from experiences that you may be the ONLY male or one, three in some of these classes. Like yoga and water aerobic, especially.

Some women like shy and reserve men. I took one class and there was only two guys in it.
For example, you should take jazz dancing. You will get to touch women with these close dances.
Don't worry what anyone thinks. This is the surest way to meet women.

Give up.

I have times when I really want friends to share fun with. Most of the time I'm usually content with being left alone, given that I have something to do with my time. However, when I don't have anything to do with my time, I tend to experience feelings of loneliness and depression. I know the friends I am looking for are out there. The only problems I face are: 1) How to find them; 2) How to interact with them; and 3) How to keep them.

I would try to find online friends in your area and try to meet up with them.

That's what I did with men in my area and that was how I met my boyfriend. I didn't know how to do it in real life but I knew how online. I just had to wait for men to come to me when I had a profile on a dating site.

You'rea genius Aspie4u... Yoga and ballroom dancing, thats the answer for me...

I'd be wary about mainly girl activites. The university dance society didn't work too well for me. I had hoped to make friends with a common interest but none of the girls (no other guys there) would even talk with me, when I tried. I wonder if they thought I was just there to ogle them or something. Maybe it was just me. I do tend to mumble.

Maybe because you were ogling them. I don't have all the answers. But if you attend all women activities, just go there and say nothing and after while someone will talk. I attended a college swim class once and no one would talk to me. This was a co-ed class. When I took a water aerobic class at the YMCA, it was different story. One older woman was giving me the evil eye, but I ignored her. I had to leave the class because I had to work at night. I didn't get any dates from any of these activities because I'm shy, myself.

I don't like college women because they are so stuck up. They still have the high school mindset.
You should find activities for different people with disabilities. By disabilities, I mean everything from Aspies through MR ect. They would be more opened to you then the NTs.

Would be impressive since I was up front to hear the teacher better those damn eyes in the back of my head
hmm. maybe it was because I was saying hello to be friendly rather than not talking to anybody
I'll have a look in the Leicester Mercury on Wed and see if I can find something.