Can't help my friend

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17 Apr 2008, 7:16 pm

She's so depressed, and she won't let me in...it makes me so sad, as I've been so depressed since grade 8.

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17 Apr 2008, 7:54 pm

What you can do is let her know you're there for her. Doesn't sound like much, but it can sometimes mean everything.

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17 Apr 2008, 8:03 pm

I'm trying. She keeps on denying everything...
It's sad because it's so obvious (even for my Aspie stupidity)

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17 Apr 2008, 8:05 pm

:cry:

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17 Apr 2008, 8:21 pm

Is she expressing suicidal thoughts? If it's something really serious, you should maybe talk to her parents.

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17 Apr 2008, 8:26 pm

Sometimes all you can do is let someone know you're there for them.

If your friend is expressing suicidal thoughts you should try to talk to parents or perhaps a teacher.

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17 Apr 2008, 10:36 pm

I would just like to say that I am in a very similar situation, and so I have the utmost sympathy. Just make sure she's knows you're there and that you care, and hopefully she'll come to you when she's ready.

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18 Apr 2008, 7:43 pm

SilverProteus wrote:

Is she expressing suicidal thoughts? If it's something really serious, you should maybe talk to her parents.

She says it's being taken care of...I hope she's telling me the truth.

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18 Apr 2008, 7:50 pm

You're doing all she can accept right now. You're a good friend.

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19 Apr 2008, 12:18 am

Sorry to hear about that. All you can do is be there for her. We as ppl don't really have the ability to change people's thoughts only inspire good or bad thoughts. So don't think you've failed just b/c she hasn't communicated with you and is going through whatever circumstances.

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19 Apr 2008, 2:03 pm

MysteryFan3 wrote:

You're doing all she can accept right now. You're a good friend.

Thank you everybody

I'm going to keep on saying that to myself...I'm a good friend, I'm a good friend, I'm a good friend!

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19 Apr 2008, 2:08 pm

YES! You ARE a good friend, ebec!

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19 Apr 2008, 4:39 pm

I'll second what Yoshie said, ebec. You are a good friend, you should know that.

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19 Apr 2008, 6:52 pm

SilverProteus wrote:

I'll second what Yoshie said, ebec. You are a good friend, you should know that.

Stupid depression tries to convince me otherwise : :rambo:

But if I have friends with my awkward social abilities, there must be something good that people see in me.
I still wish she would talk to me more though, she's just so sad and I can't do anymore :shaking:

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25 Apr 2008, 8:22 pm

ebec11 wrote:

Stupid depression tries to convince me otherwise : :rambo:

Listen to reason, not depression. :wink:

Based on the worry and care you have for your friend, I'd say she's very lucky to have you.

I hope things are better now.

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