Awkward

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Do people tell you that you're awkward? I've been told this a few times. Do you know what makes you awkward, if you are?

For me, I've been told that it's:
- how I space out when around large groups of people, and have difficulty participating in the convarsation
- mannerisms (I'll go into a sort of half-jog when crossing the street, for example, or hold myself strangely in general)
- my responses to sarcasm or jokes, i sometimes take them literally, though I'm getting better at this

I've noticed on my own:
- eye contact when passing people on the street - how to glance without seeming awkward?
- eye contact in class when you're sitting across from people, how much attention to pay to the teacher (other than listening), or look around a lot?
- my own way of walking (I sometimes feel uncomfortable, and get the feeling that everyone is staring at me when they're not)

Has anyone dealt with such things in the past, or is dealing with them now? Feel free to share your own nuances here. How have you dealt with them? I mean, I like being quirky but some things are a bit much. Any tips?

yes

Definately

1. I often sit and move my finger through my hair when I'm sitting down at school or on the computer (only when its long enough that my finger fits through it, when i get it cut to an inch its harder to)

2. I always say extrememly awkward things

3. I've recently developed an addiction to shaking peoples' hands.

The list goes on but this is all that came to mind at the moment

I completely feel you.

I have gotten that all of my life.

The thing is AS does not come with social skills. So we really have to work hard to learn them. And we have to work even harder to put them in action.

I find my awkwardness really comes out in two situations:

1: I am comfortable with those I am around.

or

2. I am overstimulated or If I am tired.

For sure

I'm deemed as awkward the most when I try to act normal. I know I'm different than most people. I know I don't fully relate to 90% of people. However, when I'm just being myself, I may be called weird, but never awkward. It's when I'm trying to fit in better that the unnatural effort stands out.

My solution: stop trying to be normal if you're not. Weird, but comfortable is 1000 times better than being unnatural trying to act normal.

No, unfortunately no one has ever had the guts to tell me anything. No comments what so ever. They do change their behavior in my presence, which sometimes kills the conversation and destroys the mood.


I have come to the conclusion that you may stare as much as you want as long as you do not turn your head. Remember that you also have to look out for obstacles in your own path.


I have enourmous difficulties with eye contact. I have a very stedy gaze and try not to pierce them with my eyes. I also loose control of my eyes when pondering on something or trying to produce a sentence. In a classroom, I pay 50% attention to the slides/board, about 20% on my notes and 30% on the teacher. The values may vary according to my need. When sitting across from someone, I'll focus more on my notes, unless it is a conversation situation. If the teacher moves around in class, I suggest that you do not rotate like a propellar so have him/her in your field of vision, but rather focus on what he/she says and keep your eyes on neutral territory.


Every day! Every day... sigh. I wish I could see a video of myself walking.


Beeing overly quirky comes naturally to me. I remember beeing on the public bus home from school, when I decided that I would let people know how fast my eyes are, by moving them around as fast as I could. It took me weeks before I realized that it only made me seem strange. Imagine a person beeing unable to control their eyes, such that they flapper around in the head as vegas slot machines? That was me for a few weeks some 15 years ago.

I'll bet there are many more quirks of this kind in my life, I just haven't recognized them yet. Most of them seem to have something to do with superlatives, so watch out for those!