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As people with Autism and Asperger's syndrome, would you prefer to be with others who also have Autism or be willing to interact with anyone. Because I understand that there are many people who are impatient and immature and it might be scary to approach any new people unless you know their backgrounds.

I never knew what As was for 90% of my life, so I don't really like or dislike someone based on their neurology. If they are willing to except me for mine, I should be able to except them for their. In my experience though, I do tend to find more exceptance among people who are not neurologically "normal" even if they are not AS.

I'd like to interact with anyone, because it would give me a sense of balance and peace and order if I could connect with a neurotypical person. It's kind of like the stereotypical main character who's a social outcast, but whose best friend is the most popular person in school -- it sort of makes you feel special, being liked by an NT. That's how I see it, anyway. I would also be able to follow their example, in a sense. Having AS is just so psychologically chaotic for me -- it would be great to find an NT who has an interest in me and would try to understand what I'm going through. Being with another aspie would just make my mind feel more cluttered -- no offence to anyone.

I can and do interact with both "normal" and strange people. For example, I watch basketball games with a VERY NT couple, while my group of friends is a group of ... yeah, strange people, one of them is likely an aspie. If I feel comfortable around someone and I feel accepted I'm just fine, no matter the neurology.

Whoever is a nice and caring person is on my friend's list

I prefer to be around people who I have something in common with as I can think of more things to talk about. Usually people who have had similar life experiences as me are aspies, but I seem to have quite a few interests that both aspies and NTs seem to like such as writing poetry, music and photography. But then I do have some quite different interests such as forensic science and serial killers...meaning not that aspies are interested in then typically, but they are uncommon amoung NT teenage girls.

So yeah, my point being is that if I have something in common with someone, I can usually find a way to get along with them, aspie or otherwise.

as long as we share the same interests, it doesn't really matter if they are "normal" or if they have AS.

I suppose some of each - Apies because I can relate to them better, & at least one NT to guide me through the jungle of real life.

I don't know if I have autism but I do know I can be antisocial and abrupt. I also know that while I can find qualities of Asperger's refreshing in others, I don't actively seek them out to the exclusion of 'normal' people. The only thing that really matters to me is whether people are willing to accept my oddities without judgement. I actually like my friends to be as diverse as possible.

I'll interact with anyone as long as they are willing to accept the fact that I'm not like everyone else, there is no one like that where I live unfortunately.

I like some people, dislike other people. Can't say if I would like aspies more or less, because I only know one, and I like him better than some people and worse than some people. Though I do think I get along better with him than I would with the NT-version of him, because I understand him in a way I don't do with NTs, even NTs that I like better.

So I think I may have a easier time getting along with aspies in general, though I have no way to know that for sure. But that doesn't mean I like them more. I just feel more unsure about how to communicate with NTs, but it doesn't mean I dislike them. I just don't speak their laungage fluently yet.