What is a friend?

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Hello, WP.
I know this may be a difficult question, but what is a friend?
Also, when is someone a friend? Is it after you first say hi or what?
I'm clueless. Thanks

A friend is someone who looks after you, and will always be there when you need them.

Thanks for the explanation, Tim_Tex.
It sounds like a nice thing, brought tears to my eyes.

Here is a direct answer to your question:

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wZHmsVRshwU[/youtube]

Ahww, that video is so cute! Thanks for posting it, it makes a lot of sense.

i think you're describing a parent o.o

um i think a person can be your friend but not always be right there for you.

friends are allowed to have their own lives too, ya know?

Friendship is a term used to denote co-operative and supportive behavior between two or more humans. This article focuses on the notion specific to interpersonal relationships. In this sense, the term connotes a relationship which involves mutual knowledge, esteem, and affection along with a degree of rendering service to friends in times of need or crisis. Friends will welcome each other's company and exhibit loyalty towards each other, often to the point of altruism. Their tastes will usually be similar and may converge, and they will share enjoyable activities. They will also engage in mutually helping behavior, such as exchange of advice and the sharing of hardship. A friend is someone who may often demonstrate reciprocating and reflective behaviors. Yet for many, friendship is nothing more than the trust that someone or something will not harm them. Value that is found in friendships is often the result of a friend demonstrating on a consistent basis:

the tendency to desire what is best for the other,
sympathy and empathy,
honesty, perhaps in situations where it may be difficult for others to speak the truth, especially in terms of pointing out the perceived faults of one's counterpart
mutual understanding.

there are many categories of friend, including but not limited to the following. each have their own unique set of traits and values.

Acquaintance
Romantic friendship
Soulmate
Pen pal
Internet friendship
Comrade
Friends with benefits
Sexualized friendship
Boston marriage
Blood brotherhood
Companionate love
Intimate relationship
Love
Platonic love
Romantic love
Open relationship
Roommate
Spiritual

Agh, the above definition confuses me, lol.
Uhm, can anyone explain it please?

A friend is loyal and truely has your best interests at hand. A friend supports you but also will be the first to tell you when you are doing something stupid.

Here are some quotes about friends:

"Tell me what company thou keepst, and I'll tell thee what thou art."
- Miguel de Cervantes (1547 - 1616) Spanish novelist.


"A friend loveth at all times."
- Proverbs 17:17


"It is not so much our friends' help that helps us as the confident knowledge that they will help us."
- Epicurus (341 - 270 BC) Greek philosopher.

"Always, Sir, set a high value on spontaneous kindness. he whose inclination prompts him to cultivate your friendship of his own accord, will love you more than one whom you have been at pains to attach to you."
- Samuel Johnston (1709 - 1784) British lexicographer.

" Faithful friends are beyond price: No amount can balance their worth
- Bible ( Old Testament ) Sirach 6:15

"When true friends meet in adverse hour;
'Tis like a sunbeam through a shower.
A watery way an instant seen,
The darkly closing clouds between."
- Sir Walter Scott

"Do not save your loving speeches
For your friends till they are dead;
Do not write them on their tombstones,
Speak them rather now instead.
- Anna Cummins

I understand your confusion relating to this.

From what I have experienced, friendship is basically a relationship - the way you relate - that is basically positive, and supports each other.

I desire to support you, and you desire to support me. Doing this, and relating based on this, is a friendship. So you may relate by talking, and helping each other that way, or maybe doing an activity together, and "feeling" like you are relating, and being a part of that person's life

Friendship is complicated. Its relationship, and Aspies have difficulty understanding it. I have great difficulty understanding.

But three people were there for me in High School, and they changed my life. They gave me a place to sit at lunch times, converstations to join in, and real support even when i would go mental at them because I didn't understand what was going on.

thats a friend. They don't care if it hurts them, eventually they will forgive you, because they care.

I, however, don't feel all that much the same way back to them at times, except in retrospect, looking back and wishing that it would just happen again. But is that friendship, and am I capable of engaging in a friendship? I don't know.

A friend is someone with whom you enact positive mutuality to the extent that it creates a good feeling within both of you

A friend is someone who has seen your worst side and still talks to you (eventually)

(If they can make you laugh, that's an added bonus)

A friend is someone who you can share your most inner thoughts with and be sure that they'll not judge you.

A friend is someone who respects you, your views/beliefs and your property.

A friend is someone who accepts you for who you are and doesn't try to change you.