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Hi everybody. I'm new to this forum.
I was just recently diagnosed with Asperger's. Well, actually, the neuropsychologists aren't completely sure what it is that I have, but I definitely have some PDD , with many of the symptoms of AS.
There's this girl that I would like to be friends with (I'm a girl also) and I'm nervous about starting a conversation with her.
I've rarely had friends my own age and I usually feel uncomfortable with people my own age, but this girl is really mature and intelligent, and in some ways, I feel like I could get along with her. I also feel that she might be understanding of my AS
because her dad is a psychiatrist and she has some experience being around people who are different and in general she is a pretty nice person.
I've made small talk with her a few times, and sometimes she's even said hello to me without me having said anything first.
But I'm also afraid that she won't like me, or will find me boring, or even try to be friendly with me because she feels sorry for me (I hate it when people do that).
I wan't to start a conversation with her but feel nervous and awkward about it, since I don't know her to well I'm afraid it might seem strange just starting a conversation out of the blue. And I'm not even sure what to say to her.
I really want to talk to her but I'm afraid that she won't like me or want to be friends with me. And also because she can be moody and snappy at times.
I don't want an opportunity for a possible friendship to pass me by. Any suggestions?

Nice to meet you, aqueduct58.

Oh good for you!! !! Seriously, seriously.

She is a great friend. When a person no matter who they are says something first it means they like you or want something from you. In this case maybe both. She likes you and also wants to be your friend

Also she most likely due to being smart also relates to you very much

Intelligence isolates. Personal belief.

So I think your best path is to trust your inner guts. Honestly trust your guts. If she says hi and inside you think "Hi" but quickly follow up with "What if?" ... then darling ... illuminate the Wat if ...

In my case I was always so uptight about that s**t but really I was psyching myself out. If you know she has a snappy personality or is easily tempered then observe her and see how and when she gets that way. My friendships work like symbiosis. Usually I have something they need emotionally and they have something I need either finatially or physically. e.g. dinner for good company.

In this same way use your inner caring for "good" if you will. But first step is first. Say hi. Or go over and tell her Hi. Be honest and say I am nervous. Let her know why you are nervous. And then listen to what she has to say. Is it constructive? Sometimes. Is is Subjective? Usually. Is it opinionated ... of course. Everyone has an opinion. But deep inside so do you and because we sometimes worry about these worries ... we neglect to see maybe we have a different way of acting ... so in this way your morality and your conchious mind can connect and well make for a very awesome person.

Does this make sense? If it doesn't then please explain why and try and be Cuba Gooding Jr. to my Jerry Mcguire ... help me help you help me ... get it? lol ... Help me, help you, help me ... symbiosis ... or as I like to call it ... true non biased community.

remember when you were a small kid? many of us simply made friends sharing something. Buy a bag of chips and ask her if she wants some.
Good luck girl, just talk to her, and it isn't a big deal to talk to someone

Nice to meet you , too, Jerry Hatake.
And yes, Zane, what you say does make sense to me.
It's just that I keep thinking about what another Aspergers site said. It said that a mistake that Aspies often make is thinking that if someone is friendly or says hello to them, that that person wants to be friends with them, when that person might really just be being polite.
This girl is very "normal" and is somewhat popular, so I don't think that intelligence ALWAYS isolates, although it usually seems to.

Glad I could help

What site was that?

Because I feel you were miss informed.

I might just have to do some research on their "research" because darling the truth is they don't know you even half as well as YOU KNOW YOU