Spokane_Girl wrote:
I know about passive aggressive behavior, but what if someone decided one day to start being nice to you because they wanted to change, be a different person instead of an ass. How can you tell their nice behavior is for real, not them doing it to manipulate you so they can hurt you more when they have gained your trust?
My guess is, you give them one chance and if they ever go back to their nasty behavior again, strike one, they're out. Never trust them again, even if they decide to be civil to you again. If it happened to be their true niceness not them doing it to be manipulative, too bad so sad their loss, they shouldn't have been mean to you again in the first place. I mean how many chances can you keep giving those people to be nice to you and never be mean to you again? If you kept giving them another chance, you are being naive because they apologize for their behavior and then they go back to being a bully again and then you're hurt all over and bam they repeat the same nice step again and then they go back to being mean and you are back to being hurt again. So we need to draw the line to how many chances to give someone when they decide they want to be civil with you.
yeah, that is amethod of manipulation and it is used by agents (pimps) for human commodities ( prostitutes). The first stance is to be tender to someone that has had a rough time of it, as to render their victims vulnerable for attack, then with hold the tenderness because of some sort of 'dissapointment' in their behavior and then stating the only way to 'make it all better again' is if you 'prove' yourself worthy by trusting again.
run like hell. do not pass go, do not collect 200.00, put your track shoes on and get the heck out of there!
been there and done that. . .
Merle
22 May 2008, 10:12 pm
