are you unforgiving?

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I find that I find it very difficult to forgive social mistakes that obviously NT people make - I feel that if they put half as much effort into it as I do, with their social intuition they would basically never make mistakes. I have no problem with people with no sense of tact, for example, but I do have a problem if it's not that they lack it but that they can't be bothered.

On a related but separate topic, I'm very unforgiving of any slights, put downs or insults. For example, a girl that was flirting with me and then appeared not to consider me good enough to introduce to her friends - I have never talked to her since. Another girl for some reason got mad at me and stopped talking to me and then changed her mind - I'm civil to her but there can be no question of friendship between us ever again (I never asked her what her exact motives were because whatever they were, it just wouldn't make any difference). A friend of mine forgot to tell me his new email when he switched so for a long time i couldn't contact him and he didn't contact me - he eventually did contact me, but I just don't want his friendship anymore.
Banter is different, actually I used to enjoy it in a happier period in my life, now the only one I ever engage in banter with is a girl I don't respect or particularly like.

Do other people here find themselves in a similar position?

I'm very unforgiving... until I sleep on it, then I find it impossible to hold a grudge

I try not to be.

I can be unforgiving, but I do consider it a fault, I try to be forgiving, unless it is undeserved

Oh good god I used to be. I'm improving though, considerably.

Proudly so. It's a logical response. In a world that forgives nothing, nothing can be forgiven, and the world forgives nothing of me.

-Frank

I'm usually a forgiving person. Everyone makes mistakes. Even I make them. If someone got mad at me for something I failed to do and that person decided to never talk to me again, be my friend, their loss. So I avoid those kind of people. Sorry guys.

I am majorly forgiving is if that person that I would care to be forgiving of was willing to be like minded with me.
The thing is that it seems no one is willing to be like minded of me except my mother,
even though it seems it would be in the best interests of others (especially children) or our selves and our mental and emotional states of well being.

I'm unforgiving, but only towards myself.

I am forgiving until a extent.. I'd always forgive my family and this one friend I have

I can be very forgiving, but I have my limits

Most peoples insults don't bother me to much...I assume they are just psychologically disturbed in some way. I miss so much NVC that I probably don't even notice half of the insults. I don't tend to trust people once they have done something to screw me over though. They can get mad or ignore me and I will except an apology...usully but if they hit me,lie to me, steal from me, thats it. I wont do anything to retaliate or hate them, but my positive feelings for them just evaporates. It's like they mean nothing to me anymore. So how much I don't forgive them is related to how much I gave them of my trust and feelings to begin with.

I suspect I am too forgiving.

Very much so. Screw me once, shame on you. Screw me twice and that's it, you're gone. There are no second chances with me.

Quite the opposite.