Friends with other aspies

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Do you end up making friends with people who are even more socially withdrawn than you to build your self esteem?

No, I actually dont. My only other aspie friend is my boyfriend who I met when I was going thru a really hard time. As for socially withdrawn people in general(aspie or not), not nessarily, I used kinda tho. But then I found it harder to get through to a person whos more socially withdrawn especially if Im the one taking the initiative and its not so much mutual. But if its mutual and we get along well then great.

I have one friend who has aspie. I found it difficult to be a good friend with her. I like her a lot, but sometimes because she speaks without thinking (like i do ) She can be hurtful...
But we help each other in some area of our life, which is good

Most of my friends are on the introverted side. A couple of them are aspies. I'm not befriending socially withdrawn people in order to make myself feel better though; it's because we have more in common. I am friends with a few extraverts but generally they have to accept that I won't want to see anyone very often, I get worn out by social contact and need to hide, but that this doesn't mean that I dislike them. Some people can understand that, but it's harder to understand that if you're someone who likes to be around people all the time. My girlfriend needs a lot more social contact than I do, but we both understand that and work around it: she can invite friends round and leave me to go and play on the computer in a different room.

Yeah, same here.

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Not to build up my self-esteem, but that is usually who I um...wind up being friends with.
I can really only tolerate/relate to other socially akward people....
Most of my friends fit that criteria...

Most of my friends are Aspies.

As far as I'm aware I've never even met another Aspie...

I find it a lot easier to get along with people who are awkward and withdrawn... I don't feel like they're expecting anything out of me so it's a lot easier to act like myself and actually talk. This isn't something I've done intentionally, it just seems to be how my life has evolved... I tend to befriend awkward people and distance the people with normal social skills.normal

Wow, I wouldn't count that as friendship. I'd be just using a person if I did that.

I have two online friends with an ASD and I probably as one RL friend with AS, and I never became friends with them because of thier ASD or because of their social awkwardness. I befriended them because they had good qualities that made/makes socializing with them as pleasant as socializing can be for me.

It may sound mean but I don't talk to other aspies at school, their just too nerdy and they bring me down.

Sounds awful, but I find other aspies quite boring and weird and my friends rip on them all the time, so I don't want to be seen siding with them.

Acting NT has it's perks